As a woman can I have it all? Determining my own path..

As a women having it all

I had thought before, that a great measure of civilization might be the influence of good women. - Adapted from - Ralph Waldo Emerson 

We’ve all seen great examples of women who appear to juggle a successful career along with entertainment, life, and motherhood.
Women are asked to stay emotionally attached to their career path and to not leave as soon as they plan for a family.

The discussion at times has been pitting working mothers against stay-at-home mothers. An engineered war of division?
The stay-at-home mothers at times are either envied or looked down on for having left the corporate world. Especially, since marketing and society is heavily pushing for more women to enter the corporate world and the realm of politics. One would guess so as to be seen as role models, so that the subservient ones will buy the merchandise they wear and promote, of course as well as another taxation unit - almost like another duped farm animal sadly.

Yes, we can have it all, but can we do it all, and more importantly — is having and doing it all truly, truly what we want? Ask some questions to consider your true path.....


1. Get honest with yourself. What do you truly want? Write out your own definition of success. What does it allow you? This is not about what your family,friends, minister, or work 'friends' think you should do with your life. It’s about what you want deep down in your heart.
Then start quietly creating that ideal for you, day by day, and keep going- based upon how you’ve crafted your purpose.

2. Allow other women to create their own success definitions. We need to give other women the right to choose what they want. Just because you might not want to be a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t entitled to make this choice.

3. Throw out the 50% rule. While we might represent any % of the population, yet do we truly need to fight for anyone else's cause? Our choice shouldn’t be based upon this percentage, or the desire to be seen as accepted by the group, but because this is something we truly desire. Go and read the bold sheep post, then come back here.

4. In saying that - join together with other women to create your own cause, not 'society's'. Don’t be the lone ranger out there; look for other women who can help you influence the redefining of success for women and men.

5. Communicate clearly and persuasively. Use your voice to impact change. Challenge people to rethink their expectations of women and men in the workplace and what careers have to look like. Let women know that they have choices and don’t have to follow a subscribed path. Paint a new picture for what success can look like for women.
And especially yourself.



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Affirmations alone don’t work ! Harmful and self defeating reactions are more likely.

Spinning the world, or is it?

Many people who have watched "The Secret" DVD, listened to the CDs or read the same book have experienced trying to make the Law of Attraction work for them, only to be disappointed.

And it will not work for them, apart from losing weight financially.(Money out of their pocket.)

They'll feel good about themselves initially, then bored, and then frustrated/disappointed or accepting of their 'status quo.'

Affirmations alone do not work in the way you hope, in any of the usual forms marketed to you.
There are several other components to the answer or our solution.

I first learned about the power of affirmations and visualization techniques and the laws of attraction/association over 30 years ago - also having been exposed to it years prior to that as a child.

The affirmation process is based on the following concept: thoughts create feelings, feelings create actions, actions create habits, habits create beliefs, belief systems create human identities, and your human identities create your reality.

This, like everything in the media, or even science - is only a part aspect or even half truth. The realities are either often unknown by the author or 'expert', or not a popular proposal.

As an adult I've embraced the whole concept, and spent time, effort, and money studying this subject, in an attempt to create the reality I wanted.

The majority of the self-improvement courses, books, and tapes taught me various methods of how to visualize and affirm what I wanted to create.

And again, using a good system, in a working manner will get you results.

Many of these techniques are touched on, sadly in a simplistic form, in "The Secret" materials.

It has been a great and valuable presentation, - as it has given a lot of people hope, a few a new direction in their life, and inspired a few more to begin to learn.

For me, I've meditated and visualized hundreds of positive affirmations daily. I've listened to hours upon hours of my own voice affirming what I wanted on an endless loop.

 I did mirror affirmations several times a day. I told myself that saying or thinking something negative was worse than saying a four-letter word. AFFIRMATIONS SHOULD'VE WORKED, 
but they weren’t working for me. I felt that disappointment., then the failure within - because I didn't at that stage understand why they weren’t working for me.

It became painfully evident that affirmations, alone, were disappointingly ineffective at creating the reality I wanted. Of course this is the polite version of that statement - really my first thoughts were rather uncomplimentary.


Sadly, this is one of the true secrets - relying on verbalization's alone to do the work you are meant to do actively, is unhelpful, and very very unhealthy. 

Almost like the magic pill - good short term, better than the other options, yet needs to be followed up with your own activity as a new healthy pattern.

You must see this reality: - success is a fun yet challenging path at times.

 In order for the affirmations, alone, concept to work you must have had a life with-

• functional role models, and have been 100% free of , or
• devoid of physical, sexual, or 
• all verbal abuse. 

Your mind would have to be a clean slate… free of all past pain, loss, and any dysfunctional experiences.

A great aspiration - yet for the absolute majority of people, probably not  100% real.

Unfortunately many of the self-help gurus don’t teach you to clean the slate of your mind first.
Driven by their own self-importance, they instead, teach that you can cover positive affirmations over a dysfunctional past and still create the reality you want.

As I discovered, the “keep going/pile it on top” theory, alone, will not work. It is better than the negative controlling offerings of others, yet brings little measurable change long-term.

It will not work alone, it only creates a cognitive dissonance leaving you stuck in place, buying even more of their products to stay emotionally up.

The average person’s mind is cluttered with contradictory information, courtesy of their past or present, and enhanced by the media.

 This restricts the input of positive new affirmations because of the Law of the Universe that states: 

"Nothing changes until IT becomes what it is."

Another secret here - change the outside a little, or your response to the outside - to change within, and your results long-term. (it need not cost a lot - and it is better so.)

You will only start to create long term positive change in your life when you learn how to clean the slate of your mind, and make the habit to keep it going like that.
That is the great thing about good meditation training.


It has been said that doing affirmations without cleaning your mind… is like putting on a clean white top or shirt before taking a shower!
Everyone sees how good and clean you look, yet the shirt or top soon becomes dirty, and quicker than before.

***Questions, are significantly better than self-affirmations*** Try it for a few weeks - make a poster on your wall/fridge/food cupboard/mirror- or somewhere you see it a few times a day - and where the 'great unwashed' will not demean you for it; firstly of a self statement you want, and then next time try a questioning statement -in a possibility manner- for a few weeks.



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Being called a fat kid, I wish they would go away, or maybe if only I was thinner

Cellulite, and loving or being loved for me.

As a budding adult who felt at times like a whale, or at least called it often enough to think it may be true. I thought that if  I couldn’t stop my desire for food with a combination of prayer and will power, then I felt I was a failure.

*If you have a health problem- see your local licensed professional.(click this link) There may be an underlying problem, which is easy to fix.


Key point: - People sometimes can convince themselves to believe things that serve their self-interest, evidence not really proving that it is true. Our choices do matter.


The medical establishment and diet industry respond with any number of products, and with  broad words that blame faulty diets and the dieters for our inability to weigh less. Each product, and each profession is the only answer - and so they try to sell us.

We are told people who regain weight need to exercise more and eat more vegetables or try the next new magic tool: A big breakfast, paleo, detoxification, eat only this..,pasta, nut, vege, fruit, or this eating plan from this country or region, or any number of brand name solutions- . . .and so on.

The bottom line is, if you don’t lose weight and keep it off, you're told you chose the wrong one or did it wrong -now choose this idea.
This show does have some similarities to the one-product-fixes-everything performers. of the Victorian reign.

Fat need not be about being weak or lazy or sloppy or indifferent.
It’s mostly about biology, and your, and your available, choices of response behaviour.

There is a mismatch between modern culture, fashions, economics, technologies, the food promoted, and the average human body.

It is time to tell anyone who suggests it is easy to lose 10 kilos or twenty pounds, to consider reality. 

• We already know we’d be better off health-wise if we lost weight. 
• We already know we’d have better odds in romance and job interviews, and just being accepted. 
• You don’t need to convince us to care, lectures do not help.
• For many of us, it’s not a matter of where there’s a will there’s a way; it’s a matter of where there’s a way there’s a will. 
• If doctors and other public health advocates (salespeople) were more honest - they would take the time to understand the combination of issues and realities we face.

Promoting diets is about as sophisticated and effective as promoting sexual abstinence for teens.
Part of the answer, and of course the 'best' way - it does seem to ignore the other components of life.

And just beneath the surface, many 'fat' people are caught in endless cycles of self-scrutiny and self-blame about their weight:

• Was it my childhood?
• Is it my medication or birth control? 
• Is it my conflict avoidance, or comfort in life? 
• Am I staying up too late? 
• Am I going to bed too early? 
• .............and it goes on.

The recriminations, especially to yourself are no help. They draw energy away from your dreams and projects, or the wonders and beauties of the world, and the creativity and passion you have to making your world better.

Weight loss is achieved, with food (or hopefully) nutrition selections, activity (body movement) choices, hormonal/biochemical changes in our body, social reinforcements (both positive and negative), all on a pleasant? ongoing basis.
A mentor, or guide, as in one who has truthfully gone before is superb.
No one single proposal is the answer, your body is a system.


Perhaps the biggest gift, is the freedom you can get from the constant chatter in your head. that interrupts us at most times.

 By using simple thought changes, with some positive reinforcement the changes can be faster.

One of the easiest, and long lasting ways = is to change your situation; sometimes that is easier, and in fact best to do that within ourselves a little first.

It may seem like an ad for hypnotherapy- yet if you look past the fluff- the following programs do work (and they are fully guaranteed).
In fact they produce a sure positive change in nearly everyone that applies them. (you'll need to do other daily and important things as well - these are the beginning factor to your new life)
Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes;- and they are correct in a way, as the learning opens up new ways of help.

You Deserve This! Choose one!


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Your and my right to a better life. Poverty is an indoctrination of control and fear

Poverty is in no way - a virtue

Strong words - yet very true. We do have a right to a better life.

Often we do not fully address the issue of the quality of life available to us. Instead, positioning ourselves as we are directed, by those we listen to.


It is now time to change that for you.


There are a lot techniques, tools and even prayers, and spells; to get money, healing, love, and all those things we want in life. They are important, yet there are primary steps to make it easier.


Mostly the quality of our lives is an expression of our minds. What we habitually think, question, and believe shows in our experience of the world.  By changing our thought and our habitual actions/reactions, we can change the quality of our lives, and the results we get.

This does take more than a few prayers or meditations. It requires choosing, and a desire to change for the better, with implementing the actions.
Of course, learning what works the best way as you go along, and doing those new ways.


Many people wish for a better life. Yet to get to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you have to get it physically somehow first. Quality living only really comes, and stays with, people of quality. Many who want a better life are people who need to work as becoming quality persons.


This can be done easily, with excellent results. The payoff is quality of life that endures for the rest of your life.


Abundance begins in our minds.


One of the most promoted beliefs in our world, is that poverty is virtuous, while prosperity is 'sin.'  It is not only a myth, but a deceitful falsehood.
This introduced belief has kept millions from enjoying prosperity. It allows misery, sickness, degeneracy and victimization, and is behind much of our world’s needless suffering.


Where there is lack, there is disease, accident, crime, control, and despair for some. When there is plenty, and it is allowed- there is health, safety, peace and optimism.


You can learn to have an abundance of good in your life.

You will not have to work as hard or as long as you thought. A person who has a prosperous mind will find the work that she or he enjoys.They will enjoy their well-being without becoming a slave.



The myth of virtuous poverty is used by anyone hoping to appeal to the common trend.The rich do indeed prefer to be an exclusive minority. When a guru, prophet, or journalist/author wants to play to the masses, flattery helps. What better way than to tell the poor that they are virtuous while the rich were sinful?  Governments and administrations do use the same stunt to placate the mass of the people.


The current myth about virtuous poverty depends heavily on the middle eastern tales of Jesus.  Because Christianity dominated Europe in the Middle Ages, its mythology has had a tremendous effect on Western culture.  Yet - Pagans, Heathens, Christians of all forms; it makes little difference really.


Poverty is in no way a virtue. Care and good management of your life and wealth is. Poverty is a breeding ground of misery and criminality, or at the very least the criminal's desire to have for themselves;- using their 'skills' as is. Poverty breeds misery; misery leads to despair, and despair brings out the worst in people.


One of the necessities of Prosperity is to stop serving the poverty idea to your mind. It will bring almost an immediate change for you. It is OK for you to have.

One technique for focusing the mind is the use of repeated statements. However, the affirmation is not a complete cure.


The trick is to get your affirmation to be accepted subconsciously, and with ease. Many of the New thought schools teach that if you ram home an idea, the subconscious will work to make it come true.

This is a great system for them, and can work if it is done often enough.(Note the time/money quotient, and where it is swayed to.)

The gurus will use an absolute statement, such as “I am wealthy.” They love that “I am”, and they promote the idea that if a person repeats it enough, the subconscious will accept it and make it come true. Actually the more a poor thinking person persists, the more their internal censor resists. It is not unusual for a person to be worse off because of the strong desire for an equilibrium.


 The trick is to work gradually.  Instead of saying 'I am wealthy', you can say 'What can I do to be wealthy?....What do I change for me?'


 Be aware that affirmations are a small part of the process. They get you started. A prosperity mentality does not come just because you repeated statements.  There is other work to be done.

Another help is a focused meditation.  A simple one is to meditate and image a symbol of wealth.
Go to the silver spoon post.- Imagine that this symbol is emanating energy. The energy looks like a light, and focus the light to yourself. Think that this power is now filling me.  I let it draw me to prosperity.  I let is flow outward and draw prosperity to me….” Use your own words.  After a few minutes, end the meditation.  Let the image of the symbol fade, as you become aware of the actual world.

What the meditation does, is that it helps focus your mind and create an atmosphere conducive to prosperity.
          
There is a personality to which prosperity is drawn, and there is a personality that repels prosperity.

The key is to eliminate the poor traits and replace them with prosperous ones.


A noticeable difference between prosperous and poor people is behavior. Rather than being a person who is rude, profane and filthy, start being clean, dignified and courteous. Your value to yourself and others will be higher, with better results.

Here are things you must do


Be clean and neat, an easy to start with discipline that changes your view on life, and others view of you. Look to your hygiene and appearance, and bath regularly and brush your teeth.Look after your clothes, and footwear. The same goes for your home space, and vehicles.Be a little clean and tidy.


Properly wealthy people show manners. Do add 'please, and thank you' to your vocabulary. Show courtesy without being subservient or noxious. Conduct yourself appropriately, in each setting. That includes your language, no vulgarity is good. A civil way of speaking invites others to listen to you.

Luck, and opportunity favours people of dignified disposition and clean appearance.

Make yourself valuable

Wealth favors people who have something to offer. By the same token, it evades those who are indolent and wasteful.

There is a probability that you are more valuable than you might think. Even if that is not so, you can make yourself more valuable. By learning skills and gaining knowledge you become more useful and thus have better prospects for prosperity.


Make a list of your talents and abilities, where you want to go, and what steps you will take to increase your value.


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I hate my job! It feels like being in a briar patch-prickles and all....

A bed of perfumed roses, would be ideal, not what feels like a struggle every day, through a mass of brambles, complete with prickles and thorns. (A polite interpretation here).

If you are unhappy at work, it sometimes can feel like that; being in position of discomfort, where you hope each minute to escape somewhere better.

Sometimes you just have to get out, and find something more meaningful, something where you feel in sync with yourself, and maybe actually make a difference.
But getting out of these jobs is usually hard. Money often, social contacts and comfort at other times.

All that is significant:- especially if you need the job - for whichever reason.

A good plan is to do that, plan--take time out away from the distractions of life. Yes they are part of our lives,and do make things seem more bearable.
Ensure to do your planning in private, some of your workmates, no matter what they verbalize, will be happy with your downfall to their advantage.

The Guide to happiness in an unhappy place.

1. Think about, and write out why you’re unhappy, and ways to change initially the small things you can.

Writing it down and reviewing it, gives you the chance to measure positive change, as well as identify the starting points.

Rather than accepting your current situation “as-is,” be proactive and work toward improving it. Can you ask your boss for more challenging projects? Can you be transferred to a different division? What skills can you improve on? What education does this employment give you? What courses can you either run for the company, or that they'll send you on.

2. Change the story you tell yourself about your career: it may be time to diversify.
Most jobs or careers aren’t total rubbish. We often feel miserable because of the stories we tell ourselves about our job:- they can be a creation of your mind and are neither true nor false. (No matter what your 'friends', say).

A certain attitude is created when we create and repeat stories like- “I can’t stand this,” “This is awful,” or “I should be doing something else with my life.”
Another sort of attitude is created when you say- “I will continue working with this, toward a meaningful career... or ..What I’m doing right now is only temporary.”

3. Shift your perspective a little at a time - it’s a training ground, not a prison sentence.


It might seem like that, especially the way some people behave around us.

Throughout the world, there are lots of people who would be confused if you told them that you were miserable in your current job. They’re making a lot less money, while working longer hours, and often in far worse conditions. You want to avoid that scenario.
There is a story told by Zig Ziglar -that helps get through this.

4. Build meaning however you can.

You can always create meaning right where you are, now. While it may be easier for you to create meaning in some careers than others. Find one or two things that you like about you current job situation and focus your time and energy on those.

5. Connect your job to other values.

If you can’t find anything meaningful about your current job, then try connecting your job to other values.Of community, family, or development enhancement issues.


6. Focus on other parts of your life.

Accept that it will take time to move to a more meaningful career. And that for now, your work won’t be a primary source of meaning in your life. It may be the primary source of staying alive - yet not your ultimate life focus.

Build the best, most meaningful relationships that you can. Explore all different hobbies or explore one in-depth. Become involved in volunteer activities that allow you a sense of meaning. Increase your people association, in a positive way.

 You can make your future start now- without always waiting for a better future to arrive. A moving river creates it's path, a stagnant pond depends upon another force to grow.

Be the river, and move forward with a flow towards your ideal, it will work really easily for you.

“The rose bush is full of thorns:- be happy that the thorn bush has roses, feed it water it- and you get to enjoy it all.” 

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Will I find the right person for me? Discovering if or if - not, and why.

Finding the right one for me

How will I know when I meet the right person? - or  - Is this really the right person for me?''


I often hear these questions, and have asked them at times too.



There are different reasons why people get together.....

• To seek/receive or give love, validation, security and safety
• To share love and to grow emotionally and spiritually
• To satisfy physical (includes safety as well as sexual) needs
• To leave a current situation for a better, or hopeful situation.

In a perfect world for the normal among us - the sharing, or mutual growth is the ideal.


If you feel insecure and alone, you are likely to look for someone who will fill that little bit of inner emptiness, and give you the love you are seeking; so you feel adequate and worthy.

The problem is that no one can do this for you forever; - it is something you really only can do for yourself.

  Instead of asking the question, "Is this the right person for me?" why not ask, "Am I being the right person?" Am I being a person who comes to a relationship filled with love to share, or am I being a needy person hoping to get love and validation? Or is the other person too needy for me right now?

Relationships don't work sometimes because each person is disappointed in not getting what they expected to get from the other person. (The long-term dream).



Here are few essential ingredients to look for, to see if the person is to be the right person for you:

• There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. Mentally and physically; you can learn this easily if you choose to.

• Each of you needs to be capable of caring, compassion, empathy and acceptance for who each of you are. An ease of acceptance, with a tolerance of the individuality present.

• Both of you need to be open to learning in conflict, rather than just wanting to win and be right.

• Both are best to want to learn or to have similar views on your future lives.

Other ingredients, such as common interests and values, acceptance of beliefs, etc, are also important, but the above three ingredients, will help to sustain the relationship.
 

To know if this is the right person for you, be aware if your intent in being in a relationship is to learn together and share. A person who comes from a growing or full place within, notices others, and may be attracted to a similar level person.


N.B. Conflict of some sort can occur in all relationships, and if both people are not open to learning about themselves and each other within it, the unresolved conflicts will eventually cause the end of a relationship. Since not many of us enter relationships fully healed, it is important to know that your partner is willing to work through things, rather than just protect against it with controlling behavior.
Mutuality is a good plan, as the unilateral desire to control things and manipulate them to satisfy our ideal outcome doesn't come from love. It comes from the fear of letting go, the fear that things aren’t going to turn out the way you want them to. Fear and control do not seem to make happy partners.


Develop a contentment within yourself - the positive results will surprise you. 



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The goat and the rose bush -- a story of human nature

Goats love just being themselves.

This is both a story of goats' behavior, and of human nature- read on to learn.

Goats are the most wonderful of creatures, intelligent, agile, investigative, and responsive.

 They love company, and with that security show an admirable attitude of independence.

Goats being goats, prefer foraging in places that are interesting, being attracted
 to the sights, scents, and activities of places people may be too.

Meaning your planted trees or gardens; they having watched you carefully tend these, they begin to think -'this might be good', and of course, you have tended these beauties just for them.

If they are in a fenced area, their primary mission in life is to seek the areas outside that fencing; if they notice a fenced area that they may not be allowed in, it is theirs to make their way into.
If they are tied up, there aim is to become released.


They will, watch for you, if you are in their sight and leave, they will seemingly casually make their way to your garden, and begin - and notably probably finish off the the parts they have pre-selected.
And a few more for measure, then they'll move away - as if to say -'It wasn't me.'
If you chose to sleep in a little longer, as the sun warms the ground, they will naturally use this time effectively.

Effective boundaries are really the only way to stop it; no matter how much they are educated of right and wrong, they still will pursue the rose -  and change the landscape as they desire.

How many lessons for you life can you see in this story?

There are positive attributes of always seeking, independence, persistence, awareness, looking out of standard boundaries, finishing what you started, - while you have the chance, giving the appearance of being cool/calm/collected, taking chances, appreciation of a value, and using your time wisely etc etc.

Of course there are negative aspects too. Choose the attitude/lense that you think will help you.


 Focus on building your self esteem by realistically identifying your good qualities - The goat does. 

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The year of the sheep - February - a marketing plan - or something more ?

Western 'civilization' often grasps the ideas of another to promote its aims.

The year of the sheep, a Chinese zodiac event. No doubt will be used to influence your behavior.

The sheep is portrayed as a gentle, meek being who cheerfully follows the leader.

Whether this message is from your favorite(or not) politician, or priest of the time, or the business leader, or other influencer.

The pattern you must grasp is that someone else who benefits from your activity, is encouraging a subservient attitude - by the use of an allegory- (a simply understood story with associations with an influential theme).

The following celebrities were born in the Year of the Sheep ; (Wikipedia)

Michelangelo, Mark Twain, Thomas Alva Edison, Rudolph Valentino, Rachel Carson, Pierre Trudeau, Barbara Walters, Orville Wright, Nicole Kidman, Julia Roberts, Amy Lee, Bruce Willis, Benicio Del Toro, Claire Danes, Jamie Lynn Spears, Matt LeBlanc, Chow Yun-Fat, Zhang Ziyi, Li Shimin (Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty 618 – 907), Cao Cao (King of Wei in China’s Three Kingdoms Period 220 - 280), Yue Fei (a patriotic general in China’s South Song Dynasty 1127 - 1279),and more.


Naturally, other associations, - to assist in the propaganda, will be drawn too- how good wool is (some is, some is not) how nutritious as food it is now- as a new discovery.
The joyfulness of sheep's milk/cheese/butter/ anything you desire in fact. All truthful in varying degrees.

Your perceptions and the promotion of these are the key.

Luckily for you. the sheep only sometimes fits its caricature, of meekness, a follower, and of lesser thinking.

Some breeds pretty well do; some do not. Apart from seeking food, they are a mischievous and curious animal, maintaining a high awareness of their environment.
Keen to be in a small group for safety, the rams will exert their dominance against you, or anything they can.

The choice is yours, are you an independent feisty sheep? or a docile one being bred for someones dinner table, or shorn seasonally to clothe them.

Originally you were a feisty and relatively independent breed, now is the time to run with that thought.

This is your mission. 

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Am I an instrument in my own failure or success? What the musician in us says ....

The story goes of one of the most famous violinists in the world, who took a valuable Stradivarius violin and played in a railway subway station.

Despite more than 1,000 people walking by, only a pre-school boy and a few other people stopped to watch him. Only one person said they recognized him.

How could one of the greatest musicians in the world play for - I think it was just under an hour- in a public place unnoticed?

If you felt you were somewhat good at something, you might also feel that people did not appreciate your abilities.

You might feel like you were wasting your time and should be doing something else. And one or two people in your circle will of course say that. 

( It could be time to find some new circles!)

You will generally seek out people you are comfortable with, it is only natural. Ensure to allocate your time with people who are exceptional, and who will give you evidence that you too are valued.


Without evidence of your own greatness, you will not be encouraged, and if you are not encouraged, most people give up;- which is not success; many people do lose faith in what they are capable of.



It is now you need to become your own mentor.

A great mentor will recognize abilities in people. They will encourage them to grow in the right direction. Soon, the student may believe they are capable and will achieve. Just a few people encouraging you can make a difference in your life. And if you have had this, you must remember those times occasionally.


 You must surround yourself with the sorts of mentors, acquaintances and friends who give you this evidence. And you must be that friend to yourself.


 In hospital, addicts commonly focus on an incident—or a series of incidents in their past—as a reason they are unworthy of being happy and/or loved. Most often, it is a parent who consistently made them feel unloved and unacknowledged, which created the issues for the child, in them. And it will mostly be true. Even if a child is good at something, an unskilled or bad parent will not encourage them.

Instead of taking one wrong message as evidence they could do something differently, they take the message as evidence they have failed and are no good, so that they may still be acceptable to their current group.


It is using the bad evidence that hurts us. Conversely, using good evidence can help us a great deal.

As a successful person you must speak of various achievements you have had in the past - to yourself - and always map out a future in a way that makes it seem as if it will work out for you.

When you think of the future, you must always always use all sorts of evidence of the things you have done in the past as “evidence” that things will turn out well for you, as you have the ability to deal with it.


Joshua Bell –the man with the violin in the subway– could be a metaphor for you of the way you are living your life, at this moment.

A lot of us look for evidence to prove that we are happy, successful, popular and so forth – and some of us find it.
However, unlike Bell, many of us do not realize we are successful and great and so we stop playing without that outside evidence that we are. Become the powerful dancer in your own life.

Look within, and remind yourself quietly and constantly of your positive attributes.Doing so will make your path through life easier and rewarding. Choose your very own place in the world.

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A bold sheep? Black. white, or colored - questions of personal identity.

As a bold sheep we stand out

   As the black sheep you may feel like you are forever trying to outrun a dark shadow. 

 If you are known as the 'black sheep' of your family, you mightn’t wear that title happily. It’s usually a shaming, blaming and otherwise labelled position to be in.

You are set up as an outsider - someone who doesn’t fit in, 'stupid, mentally fragile or incompetent,' -- when you may be one of the highest functioning members of your family.

If you are asking: “Do I fit in, - is my non-traditional approach, or my creative ability, going to be or is OK? You could well be destined - with action -to great things in life.
 The honing of  your identity is something to take great pride in; an original is worth a whole lot more than a replica.
“You” are enough. History has shown us Einstein, Tesla, DaVinci, Michelangelo and so on -a value of being unique.

Loners, misfits, and black sheep that you are - continue being yourselves. It at times is a war to fight 'normal-ness' every day. It’s a law of attraction, the more you love what makes you different, the more the right people will love that too.

Being different and being confident shows a great strength and bravery. 

 

When you conform, you wave the white flag, you destroy everything that makes you special Keep shinning even if most people can’t handle it. It is not your job to make them feel comfortable with other people shining bright, their life is their own. 

 

Don’t live up to anyone’s ideals or water yourself down for anyone! - and watch as you are rewarded by having the right people flow towards you.  

 

These are the people who will understand you, share the same interests as you, and will embrace and love you for who you are. 

 

Whatever moves you, inspires you, or makes you happy, keep doing that. You have one life to live, and it’s yours to cherish in the days following. 

 

Creativity has always been currency - now is a good time to start for you. 

 

 I’ve spent most of my life as the so called black sheep, to be successful you must be a little different - at least in attitude. It's easy to be that way, when you think of the rewards.


We all don’t have to be alike and the world would be such a better place if we embraced what made us all different instead of allowing our differences to set us apart.

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The world is backwards it seems...it is no surprise really.

 You grow up having people tell you who you should be, how you should think, and what you should do with your life. Your teachers run through the same old curriculum, and the only way you get to learn philosophy is when you choose to.

 You would think being human is simply fundamental, something that happens naturally, but no…Some people have to be taught. Some never learn :).

We are all a product of our environment. My parents allowed my individuality, usually encouraging with a guiding hand, and its a huge reason why I am who I am today.

Some people have to be told  "don’t follow these age-old rules and go follow your ideal. Find what you are passionate about, and do it as much as possible - or be passionate about what you are doing."

Seeing the younger generations of children today makes me realize I was a strong youth. I knew conforming would not make me happy long term. The more I was challenged for being different, the more I wanted to be myself.

Most children fall under pressure. I knew early on in life that I would have to learn to value myself because often I felt unheard.
I knew it was the only way I would survive and do well.


Key point; - You have to be real special if someone is telling you that you aren’t.

 I know I have a light that threatens, sometimes makes others unsure of their chosen place, but that’s not my problem..and if you shine and someone is trying to dim your light, it is not your problem either.

Only insecure people have a problem with other people’s success and only they compare themselves to others.


You think that children don’t know what insecurity means until they get older, but you are wrong. Kids are bullied every single day for trying to be themselves. Some are forced into uncomfortable situations of conformity to feel safe.
Some are forced to fight other kids and to be a part of groups/gangs that bully others. It is the only way they feel protected. Now, let that resonate, are you blending in to be in a safe group? Is that indeed helping you?

Do whatever makes you comfortable, but do it for all of the right reasons.
Don’t be modest just so you don’t offend people. You are allowed to think you look beautiful today.

 You are allowed to wear that item collecting dust in your closet for any occasion - not just a special one. 

You are allowed to like music everyone else hates, you are allowed to love the 50s even if your friends all like today's music. You have got to own your own individuality.


You should never ever have to feel pressured to be a part of something. If the people you like can’t accept who you are than you need to find another group of people to be with. Maybe they are no longer the right group to associate with, for you.


And you know what’s the best about being the black sheep? You  begin to believe you are so different, you can’t even compare yourself to others. Can you imagine the stress you avoid by not comparing yourself to others? You have got to own your differences and embrace your blueprint because no one was designed like you.




Be brave in your choice of identity - Be different - be anything but a copy of someone else and love yourself  




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