25 Easy Ways To unlock the door way to success, and close it on failure

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There seems to be as many thoughts and ways to success as their are US dollars in the world.

Sometimes, as well as focusing on the possibilities, and positive ambitions in your life, it pays equally as well to limit, or expunge (get rid of) a few of the unhelpful ones that block or slow our path.

As you read on, think of the best ways to deal with them for you just now, and to be really sure of your success write them  into a private journal, so you can look back upon your progress.

There are some nice journals you can get from  Amazon online - get one and continue your journey with ease.

So we begin the journey to notice and remove the road-blocks in our life.....

1-Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Particularly your children, your chosen life partners and friends, and surprisingly yourself.
Count your mutual blessings, and appreciate what you have, be it time, things, or surroundings.  Let go for a little while and just BE in the world. There are 2 easy-to-read book authors that will add a lot of this value to your life;- 1) Carlos Castaneda, and 2) Marianne Williamson, buy several of their books and read them once or twice each year.

2-Compulsive busyness. – Note the similarity to the word business, activity is good- yet with an end purpose gives you a bigger reward. Schedule time each day to not be busy, many people say early am, if you aren't ready for that don't force it. You are better to take 15 minutes of quiet time at lunchtime, or even just after your day has ended, than create a failure reminder. Many call it meditation, reflection, or visualization time; do use it to rest your mind .

3-Negative thinking about your current situation. – Life is a mirror; we get the best results when we smile.  So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems, both to yourself and to others. Success often requires some change to get there.

4-The needless drama around you. – Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. There are people other than you paid to deal with most of that. Focus on the positives, and the negatives will begin to fade away.

5-The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but happiness comes to those who do appreciate what they already have, and build upon it.

6-Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Social comparison is the thief of happiness. and the manipulation of your loan or credit card provider. You can spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but the envy wont assist you in getting you everything.

7-Thinking about who you were or what you had in the past. – You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  You’re always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.

8-Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made. – Let your mistakes be your motivation to work out a different approach or response, not your excuses.

9-Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. –You honestly can’t spend your life changing how people treat you or what they say about you. What you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.

10-Self-deception. – The first and best change you can take is to be honest with yourself.

11-A life path that doesn’t feel right. – Life is to be enjoyed, not endured.  When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays.

12-Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness. – You can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. Some of them are either too low, or a way of controlling you for their benefit.

13-Those who insist on using and manipulating you. – What you allow is what will continue.  Give as much as you predetermine, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Do empathize with others, but don’t lose your own voice in the process.

14-Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfect.

15-All the fears holding you back. – Fear is a perception, not a fact;- sometimes a valid warning, sometimes an indicator of a needed change. The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to have a go at what you’re afraid to do.

16-Doubting and second-guessing yourself. – When in doubt just take the next small step.  Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the most positive choice.

17-People who continuously dump on your dreams. – It’s better to forge ahead alone, than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your path. Others will crush your dreams.  Do just once what they say you can’t do, and you will either escape their mediocrity or inspire them.

18-Thinking the perfect time will come. – There are perfect moments - it is better you make and appreciate them. Let others wait for the perfect moment.  Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.

19-'Band-Aids' and temporary fixes. – Sometimes necessary; --you must act, and accept these will fail, and ensure you have replacements set up to work for the long term. Deal with problems directly before they might deal with you.

20-Close-minded judgments. – Open your mind before you open your mouth.  Don’t hate what you don’t know.  Opportunities are there for you.

21-Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights, it simply means they are human. If it is important to your success, avoid them, guide them, or learn a new way from the experience.

22-Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor any forgiveness for acceptance.  It’s about knowing that resentment is valid, yet a huge time soak away from your goals. Move on, and learn for yourself.

23-Any prejudicial thoughts. –Treat everyone with empathy, even those who are rude to you – not because they are a pain, but because you are an example. 

24-Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do.  Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret.  Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not.

25-Make moves to improve yourself.- Learn from the bad - what to change for the good, and do learn from the good what does work.
Learn from observing success in others, they may not tell you their 'secrets' - yet you will notice their actions and responses.

“Dost thou love life?  Then do not squander time,
for that’s the stuff life is made of.”
―Benjamin Franklin. 

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Honesty with ourselves,- can you answer the questions of regret? And is it really possible to get past it all?  

Do not be wanting to be impressive to others. – When you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really wanted to be.


You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire lesser quality people.  Let them live their own lives, their ambition level is theirs to own.

Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – Sometimes you’ll do things considered different by others, and a lot of times they will either overtly, or with subterfuge try and keep you in their safe space. To be standing your ground and walking your own path, is a better choice than living a life of subservience.

Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. They can’t tip dirty water into the bucket if the lid is closed. Do remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation. And do insulate yourself from them, they try and control their diminishing world, by removing other peoples lives.

Being selfish and egotistical. – A life focused on you is good - yet to be manipulative or gross in your demands will attract the multitudes of either parasites or 'defenders of the right' to you, and they will reciprocate the damage you cause.

Avoiding change and growth. – Growth, and adaption to positive circumstances are your ideal. To not do so, is to rot like an old fruit, or cabbage, with its attendant distaste.

Giving up when the going gets tough. – Even if things don’t turn out the way you had expected, don’t be too disheartened or give up.  Learn the ways and things that didn't work this time, and the parts that did.  Refresh your mind, and keep moving forward.

Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life is better in results, and experience being guided, not strangled. To pay attention to the details is important, yet to form and operate a standard approach to include them is easier than trying to actively control them all, or other people.

Settling for less than you design. –Those that compromise make easy customers, it is better for you design your own life and pursue it with a little persistence - and adaption.

Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, often there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.

Being lazy and vague. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, or anyone else either really. Allow yourself have some responsibility for your life – take control one thing at a time. And then another, and so on. After a short while you will be getting what you want, rather than what others may or may not dispense you.

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To be Self reliant, Self determined, Self motivated and a little Selfish - isn't Success lonely?

Choosing a successful life

A successful life does mean that you are and can be self reliant, self determined, self disciplined, and in charge of your own destiny. 

Your fate is in the hands of you, and no-one else. You do get to to plan your life, and it's path.

Lonely- not really, you don't have the same amount, or thankfully the same type of friends as a less successful person.

You get to be selective, because you know the rules of -

1- contagion of failure, and negativity.
2- to others you appear as you seem to be, so you do avoid the lower echelons.
3- you know the value of time and life, and........
4- better thinking people do offer better opportunities to each other.


Consequently, there being more authentic people in this group, you have less, and more reliable friends, than perhaps the person happy with their regular employment.

Being a 'lone wolf,' as it has been called, and doing things your own way can give you more flexibility to  be with the ones you care about.

Being a 9-5er, or in fact whatever set hours you work - takes time away from you in a structured way, that could have been spent with your family and friends.

Being successful, allows you to incorporate different events into your schedule, small but valuable pockets of time.

To be alone at times, gives you essential time to reflect (meditate), and revise, and plan - without the influential chatter of society - which is not your most helpful guide.

It is not so much to be alone. You meet people, you are around people. Now you actually get the choose to have people in your association or not.

A secret- your friends encourage your success or not by emotional reinforcement. It could be time to be a reliable friend to some additional people, who allow you to be successful. The choice is yours.

If the right people don’t want to be around you then that is a problem you can start to correct.

Instead of alcohol, or some other diversion, that costs you, invest a little energy for self-improvement, and then a little action day by day.

Human beings are trained to be social creatures and most end up needing the company of humans.
In prison, and school, solitary confinement or an exclusion is used as a punishment. Yet that doesn't mean you need them all in your life. Choose those who are best for you.

It is better to not require constant attention, approval or validation from family, friends, peers and colleagues. They won't give it to you all, because of their fears, envy and personal insecurities.

It is better for you, to be driven from within. Their approval and validation may come with time and success but it won’t come from playing by their rules.


If you are worried about being alone, don’t let your loneliness become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Work out what you want, and what type of people you would like in your life -
 Even the puppy fat blonde seeking a wealthy husband to support her lifestyle thinks, plans ahead, and acts to get her reward. (Mostly she fails to maintain the effort to keep it going- but you can change this for you.)
Copy her programme, not her grasping philosophy, and you will succeed.

Be the person you wish to be and one that other people you value might feel OK about being with. It really is all up to you, and it is more rewarding for you that way.

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Is it Poverty To be Average, or not? How do Rich People really Think?

Avoid the breadline - change your path.

Some of the ways rich people    Do   Think Differently - Than those who are happy being not wealthy. 

 To be 'rich' or genuinely wealthy read on -

1) Average people think MONEY is the root of all evil. Rich people believe POVERTY is the root of all evil.
Average people live in FEAR of money. You’ll  often hear average people say things like "I would never try and make money from this. I would never do this just for money" etc. This fear of money is a one-way ticket to a place you do not want to end up in. Don’t be ashamed of your need or want for money, or what it can do. Excuses are for those afraid to determine their very own path in life.


2) Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue.
Everyone is selfish, but there are two types of selfishness: overt selfishness and covert selfishness. You want to be OVERTLY selfish. Covert selfishness is for manipulators, and bullies. When you come out and say to yourself "I want it my way and I’ll have it my way, and allow others to have it their way" you do indeed get what you want.


3) Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality.
 Losers state all the time, "if I could just win the lottery. If I could just get a chance. If my big break would come in"  Notice the  IF word, and the waiting without action.
To get the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow you most likely have to take movement towards it.


4) Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.
Universities are self perpetuating indoctrination facilities, and full of educated sponge/rs.
(And of course, dependent men and woman for your cheap entertainment).
You must educate yourself. You really don’t need to spend time in formal studies to learn it. Every thing is available in some way, for free. If you want to learn about it the only thing stopping you is you. It is up to YOU to learn your craft.
Out of the system - you can easily learn all you need to know to start your new million - in about 6 weeks.  Contact us if you would like.


5) Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future.
Some people call it planning for the future,  but equally so maintain a visual of the future and how you will be in it. Actually see yourself as you wish to be.
"Things used to be so great, but nowadays…."
Put that idea aside for the purchasers of your product, and shape your future the way you want it to be.


6) Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.
Money is like an extra emotion to poor people. They verbalize- "I can’t ever have enough to pay rent and the car payment and the electric bill."
Money is an emotion, in the sense of control and power, used in this way by skilled advertisers, politicians, bankers, and other manipulative 'criminals.'
Really start to think about it like you think about your next 3-30 chess moves. Learn to play chess, to improve your life skills. Chess sets here, and books to help here.
If you’re poor…..reduce outgoings…and then get to work, plan ahead, and quit spending your money on other people's plans for you.
Sadly the book The Richest Man in Babylon has a number of good ideas in it- buy it, study it, and implement some of the ideas.


7) Average people earn money doing things they don’t love. Rich people follow their passion.
The correct word is not passion- this is a deceit it is obsession with focus and persistence. Rich people persist actively in their obsessions to the ends of the earth and beyond. Average people can’t understand this because their obsession stops at their favorite sports team, TV show, the pub, or smoking THC or Meth, or some other similar activity


8) Average people set low expectations so they’re never disappointed. Rich people evaluate a challenge.
"Don’t worry about it. It’s no big deal. Why do you expect so much. Let’s just go and watch the game!"
"Oh well, that will do, it's near enough"
If you hear these comments - these people make easy customers - but  poor and ineffective employees, or life and business associates.



9) Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich.
"What do I have to get or do to get rich?" or " What is the quickest way? I need it all now"
Rather than - "Now can we attract? What do they want?"


10) Average people follow fashions.Rich people promote trends.
The promoter gets the rewards, the follower, comes of course behind.


11) Average people dress to stand out.Rich people dress in a way to inspire others confidence.
An average person has a number of poorly kept fashion labels, or not, - in an attempt to be accepted or noticed. Something like an overly noisy car.
A wealthy person cares for their wardrobe, and dresses at all times to inspire confidence in others.


12) Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people’s money.
To remember, you were not born with a baby cot filled with dollars - and if you were - you do have to respond in certain ways to keep the flow coming to you.
A good starting attitude is -"How can I attract, and maintain the flow?"


13) Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they’re driven by emotion and greed.
Logic is only one part of the picture. If you look at everything logically you aren’t looking at the big picture, as most people in the world have been indoctrinated to think emotionally. When you speak to them logically you are not getting through to them. If you want to get access to them - you will have to inspire emotions -it is a lot faster.



14) Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.
Your ambition is to have your expenses met by others, not for you to meet them - aim for this.


15) Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their youth to get rich.
An average person will only encourage those in their domain to be average. Generally the ideas that college, a full time job, then giving spare cash to the bankers to play with for retirement is the only answer. Safety - as proposed by your most unfavorite politician - is the mantra of the people destined to be poor.


16) Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.
Money is freedom and does indeed buy you freedom. If you have a money flow you have some control of your life. When you have money you do have the pleasure of saying no.


17) Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.
Television, magazines, celebrity websites, sports – the consumption of the average.
If you can’t learn or earn from it, avoid it, - or sell it to the majority.


16) Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.
Rich people understand the relevance of association, and the contagiousness of fear and poverty thinking. Average people cannot hide their envy and jealousy.
They made the poor decision to be employees, and now you’re a devil because you are either free and/or have money.

You must dispose of these types, by any means possible - they are the criminals that steal your time and assets, and they do sadly breed, reproducing more of the same.


18) Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.
How many people have told you of the wonderful benefits of saving for retirement and how you can finally live like a king when you’re 65? Most of these promoters, lose the fees (and taxes) you give them while they access your earned reserves, as in fact if it is money - it gets less in value as time goes on due to inflation and deception. Focus on creating a flow.



19) Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.
Considered risks bring rewards. Do ensure the promoter is you, not a government employee, or agent.


20)  People love to be 100% comfortable. Rich people find comfort in a future.
Average people don’t want to do anything except eat processed food and watch TV. Wasting your day in any form is not a valid life choice- these are the people that you can promote or sell to - you must be part of the active crowd to be wealthy.



21) Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.
"Well, at least I have my health" The same people, eat and live fashionably, as proposed by their television.
If something has to advertised, or promoted by the news on TV - the camera only points the one way that they choose -not you.
The reality is that money is what is sought by the establishment trained doctors/dentists/drug companies- so it does buy -in western society- the best medical care and the best drugs, as unfair as that is.

You must make health part of your 13 point plan for success, learn how to be healthy, and do not use it as an excuse for failure. And of course avoid wasting your time and money with the essentially corrupt standard medical system.


22) An average person believes.A wealthy person creates belief.
Most average people respond passively to any thing, and believe like many a fairy tale character in the authorities show. Many a charity is formed with good intent, yet those who remain average use up their lifetime loudly convincing others to join the cause.
A consistently wealthy or rich person, will work to create a belief that that the consumers or average persons follow.



23) Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.
Average people are excuse-makers, (prime warning sign), and are mediocre because of their choice. A family isn’t a burden or an obstacle in making money, for these people it’s an excuse to be lazy and coast at a job. A friend was a solo father with children from the age of 2, growing up - and he still easily made over a million dollars in the real world. These children are now in their twenties, and very well grounded, and successful in their own right.
 (This doesn't say much for the previous and current crop of demanding solo-mothers).
Rich people demand more out of life, and they get it. Demand more, especially from yourself, and your quality of life will go up.


Stay away from poor thinking people - it is comparative to being around a contagious disease - their daily thoughts/habits/in-actions lead them to be in poor health. 
And like Ebola, Tuberculosis, and even the Flu, you absolutely do not want it - there must be no exceptions.

Do not allow them in your home, or mind - if they are there just now - start associating anyway you can with truly successful people - not the blowhards in the neighborhood or on the internet. Learn what success really is and associate with more of those people. Leave all the others to enjoy their chosen life. 





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Becoming a better leader as a secret to getting what you want in life

Leadership in the sandpit of life.

A Leader is generally someone who encourages others to follow, or even better; - to move towards (one would hope) a worthy goal.  

 

By bringing out the best in people, and allowing them to develop/learn/ and actualize actions and thought, they and their 'team' will achieve and surpass the goals - being of course well rewarded.  

Whether you want to be a leader of a group, or just to have and achieve good things for you. 

The qualities and traits (similar) of a good leader are really worth learning.  

With this knowledge, you can start a daily plan to improve things for you, and know who to avoid before you get trapped somewhere.   

Be it in any relationship; work, business, club, or personal. 

They have been said many times through out history- though now you must re-examine them to fit your success. This will save you time and life energy,(make your life easier) -  Here are a few ideas you can use to establish the personal character of a leader – before you sign on to them or their organization, or in fact where you yourself can change.

Remember = good leaders get rewarded well long term. 

Let us measure some of these traits of good leadership.

 

1- What is their track record like? It’s not just about wins and losses or whether they have been successful; it’s about how they have adequately achieved what they have said or seemed to achieve.
Do they have a history of winning at all costs or would their followers take a bullet for them?

2- How do they treat people who can’t help them? An easy way to determine the character of a leader is to take note of their behavior toward individuals who have no power or no ability to help them succeed in their current endeavors.
In observing them are they talking down to lesser souls? Your turn is later. Also be aware of the profusely charming one, they use this as a cover - easy to see through them after they've had a bit to drink.

3- Do they have any interest in what you want out of the relationship?
Good leaders view working relationships as mutually beneficial and with a view to the long term.

4- They take the time to discover whether what you want in the long term will be possible or aligned with the values of their own business.

5- Poor leaders tend to want what they perceive you have or can do for their business, whether or not it is aligned with your personal goals and values -- and sometimes even without your permission.

6- How do they treat people who leave their organization? Do they discard people who no longer matter to them? Great leaders take a long term view of relationships, don’t burn bridges and leave doors open.
 Poor leaders don’t waste time on relationships which they see of no benefit to themselves.

7- Do they show good judgment when it comes to the fit of the personalities, abilities, and beliefs?
Good leaders understand the importance of interpersonal ‘fit’ amongst the people who work for them. Whereas poor leaders tend to adopt an “if it doesn’t fit, force it” approach, so long as they get what they want.

8- Are they generous and honest when it comes to giving credit to others? Good leaders pay authentic compliments and praise the work of their staff in specific terms.
Good leaders don't need to take credit for the work of others, because they are not insecure, envious or threatened.

9- Great leaders understand that what makes them great is the way that they facilitate the success and recognition of others.  Poor leaders find subtle (or even not so subtle) ways to take credit for the work of others. They imply that they had something to do with the successes of others. 

10-Do they micromanage? The best leaders surround themselves with good people and then allow them to do the things they do best and most enjoy, within the guidelines.

11-Great leaders know they don't have all the answers and inspire trust by trusting those around them to do what is expected.

12- Poor leaders demonstrate controlling and maybe even bullying behaviors.
Poor leaders feel that they need to control the flow of information and try to place themselves as the funnel of information to and from their team.

13- Is there any sign of  a classic offering of bait and switch?  Good leaders don't paint a picture that doesn't measure up to scrutiny, or offer false promises.
 
14- Poor leaders will do so, or will say what they think you want to hear to get you on board; however, once they have you committed, or are writing the paycheck, quickly reveal that you've signed on for something else and demonstrate that they feel they hold the whip hand in the relationship. 

Very much like an abusive domestic relationship.

15- Do they invest in employee development, whether or not it’s related to current projects or job responsibilities? Do they encourage learning, or decry it? Or reduce the time you have for it by subterfuge or focused overload?

16- Great leaders – leaders worth following – invest in developing others around them, even if it might mean that the individual will leave for another opportunity.
Great leaders know that investments made in their team will pay off in real results as well as greater employee job satisfaction and loyalty.

17- By contrast, poor leaders tend to invest only in things which will (only) bring benefits in the here and now, and which primarily benefit themselves as a leader of the business.

If you are considering a new position, relationship; or just evaluating your life plan - take the time to get to the heart of what it is that the other person values about others.This is the easiest way to determine someones approach to life.

Everyone wins in any relationship or organization characterized by good leadership.


From this you can see - very very few people make the grade - is this country it is about 1 in 300-500 people have the ability to become a leader, and about 1 in 2,000 to 3,000 that practice their abilities.
Which is evidenced by their lack of long-term security, and wealth.

You must improve yourself, and create a financial, emotional, and physical distance from the poor leaders as quickly as you practically can. You would not fly in a plane with a poor captain, or travel in a ship with a habitually 'out of it' captain -this is your life and the consequences are similar - good or not comfortable journey - be aware of where you want to end up.

It is up to you be the leader in your life, if not in your organization or life relationships. This will remarkably improve your life circumstances.



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I hate my job! It feels like being in a briar patch-prickles and all....

A bed of perfumed roses, would be ideal, not what feels like a struggle every day, through a mass of brambles, complete with prickles and thorns. (A polite interpretation here).

If you are unhappy at work, it sometimes can feel like that; being in position of discomfort, where you hope each minute to escape somewhere better.

Sometimes you just have to get out, and find something more meaningful, something where you feel in sync with yourself, and maybe actually make a difference.
But getting out of these jobs is usually hard. Money often, social contacts and comfort at other times.

All that is significant:- especially if you need the job - for whichever reason.

A good plan is to do that, plan--take time out away from the distractions of life. Yes they are part of our lives,and do make things seem more bearable.
Ensure to do your planning in private, some of your workmates, no matter what they verbalize, will be happy with your downfall to their advantage.

The Guide to happiness in an unhappy place.

1. Think about, and write out why you’re unhappy, and ways to change initially the small things you can.

Writing it down and reviewing it, gives you the chance to measure positive change, as well as identify the starting points.

Rather than accepting your current situation “as-is,” be proactive and work toward improving it. Can you ask your boss for more challenging projects? Can you be transferred to a different division? What skills can you improve on? What education does this employment give you? What courses can you either run for the company, or that they'll send you on.

2. Change the story you tell yourself about your career: it may be time to diversify.
Most jobs or careers aren’t total rubbish. We often feel miserable because of the stories we tell ourselves about our job:- they can be a creation of your mind and are neither true nor false. (No matter what your 'friends', say).

A certain attitude is created when we create and repeat stories like- “I can’t stand this,” “This is awful,” or “I should be doing something else with my life.”
Another sort of attitude is created when you say- “I will continue working with this, toward a meaningful career... or ..What I’m doing right now is only temporary.”

3. Shift your perspective a little at a time - it’s a training ground, not a prison sentence.


It might seem like that, especially the way some people behave around us.

Throughout the world, there are lots of people who would be confused if you told them that you were miserable in your current job. They’re making a lot less money, while working longer hours, and often in far worse conditions. You want to avoid that scenario.
There is a story told by Zig Ziglar -that helps get through this.

4. Build meaning however you can.

You can always create meaning right where you are, now. While it may be easier for you to create meaning in some careers than others. Find one or two things that you like about you current job situation and focus your time and energy on those.

5. Connect your job to other values.

If you can’t find anything meaningful about your current job, then try connecting your job to other values.Of community, family, or development enhancement issues.


6. Focus on other parts of your life.

Accept that it will take time to move to a more meaningful career. And that for now, your work won’t be a primary source of meaning in your life. It may be the primary source of staying alive - yet not your ultimate life focus.

Build the best, most meaningful relationships that you can. Explore all different hobbies or explore one in-depth. Become involved in volunteer activities that allow you a sense of meaning. Increase your people association, in a positive way.

 You can make your future start now- without always waiting for a better future to arrive. A moving river creates it's path, a stagnant pond depends upon another force to grow.

Be the river, and move forward with a flow towards your ideal, it will work really easily for you.

“The rose bush is full of thorns:- be happy that the thorn bush has roses, feed it water it- and you get to enjoy it all.” 

                                Recommended link to help you now

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Repairing self-belief - Breaking patterns or restoring self trust .....

The start of a new year to many is the start of a new page, a new blank slate that can be filled up in any way they want.

A new year will bring new choices, new opportunities and new adventures.

Thoughts are- “this year I am going to…..” with huge plans of immediate results.

Changes are planned in journals diaries and notepads throughout the world.

As life didn't really know about the new year, things still continue to arise, to stall, or reroute your planned story.

Your promises to yourself fall one by one to the wayside. And this year seems to become a new version of the one before.

And when you don’t do what you promise yourself, you begin to damage the relationship with yourself- as you would do if you promised someone else You damage your self-trust.

Of course if you voiced your goals to 'friends' and family, they'll take a great delight in holding you at a lower position -as it allows them to feel comfortable too.

Questioning yourself about the wrong will only keep yourself f in the place of weakness, of feeling at fault.

Instead of accepting it, – start asking different questions of yourself.

I grew up receiving the message that I was not that important. My feelings were invalidated and were discounted in action; this did cause some belief systems to develop that affected my self-care and self-love. Learning then, that I was not important led me to discounting myself.

This is a technique many an adult abuser uses as well, to maintain their control.

A while ago this led to putting myself and my needs last and to breaking agreements that I made with myself to appease others.

When I first noticed that I was doing this and that I didn’t actually trust myself because of it, my solution was to stop making agreements with myself.

That didn’t work out to be the best answer, because the message that I was giving myself was this: If I can’t keep agreements with myself I won’t agree to anything at all.

To change, you must start with small achievements, that fit your circumstances - come up with one per week, and apply it for 4 days, then a week, and then choose a new one to add to your repertoire - supply of your own life skills,

 a few examples to try:-

• I awoke 30 minutes/ 1 hour (whatever suits you) early today
• I got out of bed and ..... 30mins/1hour early etc
• I got to work 5/30 minutes early -that was easy
• I made $10/$100 more today/this week (profit)
• I walked/ran/cycled x miles/km today- rain or shine.
• I encouraged one unknown before person today 
• and so on.

The secret is to avoid communicating your plans/achievements until they are physically obvious as a routine, and to start small- no matter of your capabilities.

The starting with tangible choices allow you to measure your successes easily - this will naturally bring about feelings of 'I feel good- I feel amazing- I can do this' etc.

I seriously suggest to go back and read and do the Ben Franklins 13 Virtues on this site.
It will bring you nearly all the changes you desire in self growth.

The idea - is to change your preconditioned protective neural patterns. (in big words)

Develop in yourself a new patterned track or path way that you will easily and naturally revert to, similar to the philosophy of successful training programs.

If the army or other group can do it, with the variable quality upbringings of their conscripts - you will very easily succeed, given your desire for you. 




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It is my life now,not yours ! - thoughts on starting over

The most important thing we need to have is clarity about what we want to do with our life.

If we are not an emotional place that we are thriving in - have we really been honest in our initial self assessments. (I'll talk about abuse later.)

To have some power to create events that help us, we had better be open to some learning, from the right places.

Choose your teachers wisely, for the results you want, not what someone wants for you.

At this point, you are ready to move forward in your life - take note of the following ideas.

 Ask some simple questions of yourself - How do you want to live your life? Ten and twenty years from now, when you look back, what kind of life will you want to see? Even further, when you look back in your 80s or 90s, what kind of life would you like to see?

Forget the things for the moment, use the vision of how your life will be: - A very strong technique is to envision a group in your imagination, with you, say at the same table- talking about how it is, and how well it's been for you, all.

 Sadly, many people live according to what other people say to them or expect of them. Another month or year passes and a new item in their life, which is upgraded the next year  - and the cycle goes on.

When we have that clarity about our life, it is a lot easier. We don’t live according to what the trends are or what everyone is doing. We are aware of them, though let the trends work for us, not us to buy into them.

Develop a sense of what you accept in life, and allow only that in. In simple terms a diet has often been broken by one hamburger, or one bar of chocolate. A learning process, that I'm afraid -works for most people and animals.
Allow an accepted experience in, and it becomes acceptable if the walls/boundaries are not there.

Anger is one sign our boundaries have been invaded.Anger in itself is a healthy response to threats to ourselves, our identity, or abuse. Yet, many of us know the dire consequences we will face if we dare express that anger. To survive, some of us have become masters at repressing anger.

The anger itself is good- it is a signal- it is now up to you to use that signal to change things for the better.
Much as we might think opposing force is natural - it may not get you what you want long term.

Everybody tells us to leave, but neither is that the optimum answer. No one action will fit all situations.
Pick your heroes/mentors well, and even if they are not with you at the time, you would have asked yourself - how they would have dealt with the situation.

And go briefly back to the event in your mind later, and ask how can I do it better if it happens again - or what led to it, do I want to change that.

You can see again the advantage of knowing yourself. You do have to work within your regimes laws.

Evaluate yourself under the following, now - and then regularly - initially nightly, then weekly.

(It is from Benjamin Franklin's 13 Virtues - a long time ago - use it -it will guarantee your success- it has mine--you do need other stuff as well)

1.    Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
2.    Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
3.    Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
4.    Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
5.    Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
6.    Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
7.    Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
8.    Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
9.    Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
10.    Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation.
11.     Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
12.    Waste no time on sex as an  escape
13.    Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

The idea is to help us make an accurate assessment of our progress - to know when we do and when we don’t - need redirecting.


The idea isn’t to bludgeon ourselves with the abusive person’s favorite weapon:....  “you aren’t good enough.”


The consistent message  is that you are good enough, some modifications will make your live go in the direction you want.

We must consider our-self strong, courageous, and resilient, able to create our own reality in the savannah of life.

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