How Can I Be More Convincing and Get Anything I Want?

Thinking about getting what I want

One of the most common manipulative techniques is what psychologists call the "fear-then-relief technique."

The technique focuses on a person's emotions. Here, the manipulator causes someone a great deal of stress or anxiety and then abruptly relieves that stress.

After this sudden mood swing, the person is disarmed, and less likely to make mindful or rational decisions, and more likely to respond positively to various requests.

Some examples in popular culture are;-

• The promotion of war - look out for the enemy - they are bad (they probably are to some degree as well) - we are here to save you, come and work for us (volunteer) for a promised possible reward- which you will end up as a slave/lender yourself.

• Insurance companies sales, and advertising - give us your earned money and we'll pay out if a disaster hits you - (so long as you meet all the other 15 + conditions, you are a low risk, and we can spare the money at the time).

• Global warming - look it is 'real', all of these scientists say so, and it is on TV - all of the beautiful out of the way holiday or vacation destinations need the scientists, journalists,(and your most unfavorite politicians, and support crew), to stay there studying it - while you work in the office or factory being unable to go on vacation. All true.

• They are all out to get you - come and join us - our group will protect you - many a cult uses this while they strip you of your identity/life/money, then discard you or encourages you to convert the newcomers.

 This fear-then-relief manipulation technique is most popularly portrayed on TV, and by the lower quality cop or government employee in real life - in the classic bad cop/good cop routine: one person frightens and scares you, another saves you, and then you're more willing to hand over information, time, money.

You see this in your everyday life, too - with unskilled managers or people who suggest your job or security is on the line, backtrack, and then say we need to work overtime, as they leave for a long lunch, or maximize their time off at your expense.
Or domestic abusers, who threaten their close ones, hoping they can control their world.

  It is usually more 'effective' when there is more than one factor of threat that can effect the person, or they or their close friends have been in a similar event.

Being such a common technique, if used with a genuine promise in the here and now, or an actually helpful result to the end user - (not the manipulator) - it is accepted and successful.

The secret is that, for you to use it, giving the other party what they thought was a fair reward, being aware of it, and protecting yourself. As much as most of us wish for longer, and many esoterics try to sell us - life time in the now is valuable to you, and limited.


Making You Feel Guilty: Social Exchange 
Another common strategy used mostly by unethical marketers, government agencies, con artists, and gangsters is social exchange. Offering of a favor to happen in the future - it wont happen - or a $5- $500 gift in return for a lifetime of donations from you. The item was free to them, or they or their associates will get it back off you later.
The classic example is - take a loan - house mortgage out with us, and we'll give you cash, blankets or a big screen TV when you are approved and start paying us.
Sorry to say, this has been factored in the earnings of the lender - much like the indigenous tribes of many countries being deceived out of their lifetime use of their land with a few colored blankets, and trinkets.

An everyday example: A co-worker or 'friend' will dramatically remind you about that time they bailed you out big time in the past, then use that as leverage every time he/she needs something. Or someone who loaned you money or knows a secret of yours could continually blackmail you into doing what they want.

Short term trinkets that are fashionable are very appealing to most people, and they will quickly hand over their long term assets - be it land or time to the more aware person who has a long term plan.

Priming You With a Small Request: The Foot-in-the-Door Technique

This technique is subtle, and simple. With the foot-in-the-door method, someone asks you to do a very small and easy request, like a survey, or some small actions for a few dollars, and then follows up with the real request.

Everyday example: A panhandler or street person who asks you for the time, then asks you to spare some change. They will then hold out their hand for a moment longer as if to say is that all? More please, I need to buy ???
Or rewarding a dog with a small treat, so it will always bring in the newspaper for example - treats or no more treats - just a thankyou pat.

By getting you to say yes to one request, you're more likely to say yes to a second one, much like the pet dog.

Reciprocation, is how humanity functions as a whole - which is partly why stealing/fraud is punished for most of us. 

If both parties are getting what they consider is 'fair', it works wonderfully - most genuinely successful people make a 'sandwich' out of it; a small offering once, twice, three times - then the larger request being fulfilled - followed by some small things unexpected once, twice, three times.

Avoiding These Manipulations

• In all walks of life, there are overly self-focused people - it is not so much not falling victim to them. Yet more, keeping them out of your life, and valuing your life, sharing what you want to share with them only.

• Nearly every manipulator uses emotions and emotional transference, so whenever you feel a surge in  emotions. You're more vulnerable at that time to do things unconsciously and at the suggestion of others.  The cheapest for the advertiser/manipulator is this general formula: [Something terrible] could have happened to you, but it [didn't/won't]. [Now do this]. It only costs you -$x down.

• Life is full of it when you look, and some very pseudo-wealthy people seem greatly skilled at it.

The idea for you is to be aware of the long term for you, and avoid giving away the short term, for the future. The sandwich idea above will bring you the greatest rewards - more so than most.

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Getting money to leave your situation. Be it a bad boss, place or relationship

Alone and looking out for the danger

Many times we are either stuck in place, or being held in a bad place or relationship by our own mistakes or a controlling person.

A few dollars or shekels reluctantly handed over at times, when we are at the end of our tether.

Many pseudo-wealthy use this technique to maximize their control (abuse), just within the margins of the law.

Like the pseudo-wealthy, there is not much use bringing someone to account while they are doing it, unless you can invoke an authority they will listen to - (it doesn't have to be yours, and is better if it isn't really.)

Seriously, we must extricate ourselves (get out of the bad place), and prevent it happening again to us.


Both domestic abusers, and bad bosses or employers do give away their tendencies early on.

Yet for now we must re-establish ourselves.....

6 Ways to Be Financially Independent From a Controlling person

Don’t lose hope.

Keep trying. If you’ve been with a controlling husband or wife or partner – or importantly - a critical person – for a long time, you may feel hopeless. This is their plan, to make you feel inadequate so they won't lose you. In psychology, your perception is called 'learned helplessness.' You may believe you’ll never learn how to become financially independent because your abuser keeps telling you that you need them to survive, and in some way/s you are not good enough. Don’t lose hope! Remember that others have got out of these sort of situations too. You Must Leave these people - they will replace you with a better deal on a whim.

Remember that; interdependence' is more a help here than 'independence'

Interdependence means you’re part of a community that supports each other. This community might be a neighbor, a workplace, a book club, a walking or gardening group, somewhere you can have a clear thinking space. Note - not a conversational pity party, or verbal bashing place - negative realism is good,- forward action is what will help you most. When you’re learning how to become financially independent in a controlling situation, focus on finding a network or community of people that you can rely on – and who can rely on you. Do connect with others, be interdependent, even for a short while.

Find people who found financial independence themselves

The best way to learn how to become financially independent with you’re in a controlling relationship, or situation is to connect with others who have 'Been There, Done That.'
They may be able to guide you in the right direction. DO NOT use a banker, lawyer, or their associates, as your mentor or guide. Those groups are there to do what you tell them to do, and they will only work for their advantage - not yours - ever.
Try for an honest business man or woman, with some years of experience, or a trusted Rabbi or priest.

Humble yourself

It’s very difficult for most productive people to ask for financial help. Applying for government assistance, researching housing allowances for single parents with children, or similar - finding ways to support yourself is a humbling (or worse) experience. It need only be temporary, and you can pay it back in the future, in real form or volunteering. If it is restart to a more productive life - you can justify it to yourself.

LISTEN to financial advice about how you handle money

If you aren’t a financially independent now, maybe you were never taught how to handle money or balance a budget. Maybe you enjoy spending money, as most of us do; – and think -- maybe you married a controlling partner so you had an external source of structure.

Again, the successful impartial honest - business person or religious minister, may be your best source of advice - do avoid government sponsored programs, unless you get to deal with a very old retired adviser with a positive empathetic attitude. Like the lawyers, bankers, etc the government programs are there for their benefit, not yours at all.

Be a burden

"I have no family support and I don’t want to burden anyone,"..... "I want out of this marriage/relationship/job so bad, but I don’t have the money to leave. She/He knows I can’t make it on my own financially, and they always want me to pay something so I have no money left from my paycheck."
This is unbelievably common - as if it is a standard operations procedure taught to abusers - and we are so often led into this place.

No normal person wants to be a burden on their kids, friends, family, or coworkers! But on occasion you can succeed a lot easier with getting help from others. You will return the favor in the future, right?
Again be very suspicious of the bankers, mortgage, or finance brokers - avoid them in fact, they are there to further their own aims, not yours. A temporary written agreement that you repay as soon as you can, between friends etc., is always better.

Financial independence will cost you time, energy, resolve, humility, and focus. But the rewards are really worth it!

Be Aware now, and once you 'escape,' always have a reserve of even survival money - unknown, and usually untouchable - you can have it all over the world nowadays - so long as it is tax paid money, and ownership proven - it is legal and moral to do so - do keep it out of the public view.
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As a woman can I have it all? Determining my own path..

As a women having it all

I had thought before, that a great measure of civilization might be the influence of good women. - Adapted from - Ralph Waldo Emerson 

We’ve all seen great examples of women who appear to juggle a successful career along with entertainment, life, and motherhood.
Women are asked to stay emotionally attached to their career path and to not leave as soon as they plan for a family.

The discussion at times has been pitting working mothers against stay-at-home mothers. An engineered war of division?
The stay-at-home mothers at times are either envied or looked down on for having left the corporate world. Especially, since marketing and society is heavily pushing for more women to enter the corporate world and the realm of politics. One would guess so as to be seen as role models, so that the subservient ones will buy the merchandise they wear and promote, of course as well as another taxation unit - almost like another duped farm animal sadly.

Yes, we can have it all, but can we do it all, and more importantly — is having and doing it all truly, truly what we want? Ask some questions to consider your true path.....


1. Get honest with yourself. What do you truly want? Write out your own definition of success. What does it allow you? This is not about what your family,friends, minister, or work 'friends' think you should do with your life. It’s about what you want deep down in your heart.
Then start quietly creating that ideal for you, day by day, and keep going- based upon how you’ve crafted your purpose.

2. Allow other women to create their own success definitions. We need to give other women the right to choose what they want. Just because you might not want to be a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t entitled to make this choice.

3. Throw out the 50% rule. While we might represent any % of the population, yet do we truly need to fight for anyone else's cause? Our choice shouldn’t be based upon this percentage, or the desire to be seen as accepted by the group, but because this is something we truly desire. Go and read the bold sheep post, then come back here.

4. In saying that - join together with other women to create your own cause, not 'society's'. Don’t be the lone ranger out there; look for other women who can help you influence the redefining of success for women and men.

5. Communicate clearly and persuasively. Use your voice to impact change. Challenge people to rethink their expectations of women and men in the workplace and what careers have to look like. Let women know that they have choices and don’t have to follow a subscribed path. Paint a new picture for what success can look like for women.
And especially yourself.



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25 Easy Ways To unlock the door way to success, and close it on failure

The power within ourselves to select our...

There seems to be as many thoughts and ways to success as their are US dollars in the world.

Sometimes, as well as focusing on the possibilities, and positive ambitions in your life, it pays equally as well to limit, or expunge (get rid of) a few of the unhelpful ones that block or slow our path.

As you read on, think of the best ways to deal with them for you just now, and to be really sure of your success write them  into a private journal, so you can look back upon your progress.

There are some nice journals you can get from  Amazon online - get one and continue your journey with ease.

So we begin the journey to notice and remove the road-blocks in our life.....

1-Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Particularly your children, your chosen life partners and friends, and surprisingly yourself.
Count your mutual blessings, and appreciate what you have, be it time, things, or surroundings.  Let go for a little while and just BE in the world. There are 2 easy-to-read book authors that will add a lot of this value to your life;- 1) Carlos Castaneda, and 2) Marianne Williamson, buy several of their books and read them once or twice each year.

2-Compulsive busyness. – Note the similarity to the word business, activity is good- yet with an end purpose gives you a bigger reward. Schedule time each day to not be busy, many people say early am, if you aren't ready for that don't force it. You are better to take 15 minutes of quiet time at lunchtime, or even just after your day has ended, than create a failure reminder. Many call it meditation, reflection, or visualization time; do use it to rest your mind .

3-Negative thinking about your current situation. – Life is a mirror; we get the best results when we smile.  So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems, both to yourself and to others. Success often requires some change to get there.

4-The needless drama around you. – Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. There are people other than you paid to deal with most of that. Focus on the positives, and the negatives will begin to fade away.

5-The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but happiness comes to those who do appreciate what they already have, and build upon it.

6-Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Social comparison is the thief of happiness. and the manipulation of your loan or credit card provider. You can spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but the envy wont assist you in getting you everything.

7-Thinking about who you were or what you had in the past. – You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  You’re always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.

8-Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made. – Let your mistakes be your motivation to work out a different approach or response, not your excuses.

9-Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. –You honestly can’t spend your life changing how people treat you or what they say about you. What you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.

10-Self-deception. – The first and best change you can take is to be honest with yourself.

11-A life path that doesn’t feel right. – Life is to be enjoyed, not endured.  When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays.

12-Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness. – You can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. Some of them are either too low, or a way of controlling you for their benefit.

13-Those who insist on using and manipulating you. – What you allow is what will continue.  Give as much as you predetermine, but don’t allow yourself to be used.  Do empathize with others, but don’t lose your own voice in the process.

14-Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfect.

15-All the fears holding you back. – Fear is a perception, not a fact;- sometimes a valid warning, sometimes an indicator of a needed change. The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to have a go at what you’re afraid to do.

16-Doubting and second-guessing yourself. – When in doubt just take the next small step.  Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the most positive choice.

17-People who continuously dump on your dreams. – It’s better to forge ahead alone, than allow negative people and their opinions derail you from your path. Others will crush your dreams.  Do just once what they say you can’t do, and you will either escape their mediocrity or inspire them.

18-Thinking the perfect time will come. – There are perfect moments - it is better you make and appreciate them. Let others wait for the perfect moment.  Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.

19-'Band-Aids' and temporary fixes. – Sometimes necessary; --you must act, and accept these will fail, and ensure you have replacements set up to work for the long term. Deal with problems directly before they might deal with you.

20-Close-minded judgments. – Open your mind before you open your mouth.  Don’t hate what you don’t know.  Opportunities are there for you.

21-Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights, it simply means they are human. If it is important to your success, avoid them, guide them, or learn a new way from the experience.

22-Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor any forgiveness for acceptance.  It’s about knowing that resentment is valid, yet a huge time soak away from your goals. Move on, and learn for yourself.

23-Any prejudicial thoughts. –Treat everyone with empathy, even those who are rude to you – not because they are a pain, but because you are an example. 

24-Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do.  Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret.  Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not.

25-Make moves to improve yourself.- Learn from the bad - what to change for the good, and do learn from the good what does work.
Learn from observing success in others, they may not tell you their 'secrets' - yet you will notice their actions and responses.

“Dost thou love life?  Then do not squander time,
for that’s the stuff life is made of.”
―Benjamin Franklin. 

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Is it better to be alone for a while, than in bad company? Red flags to pay attention to.

Bare maiden making her own way in life

Ideally, you would surround yourself with people who make you a better person and let go of those who don’t. Sometimes we are in we think someplace or somewhere too deep, and at a point in life, determined for us by others.

Bad company can be inspiring in the real sense, that it lets us or brings us to a place in our life that 'forces' us to begin to change for the better.

We must be alert to the often well hidden indicators of bad influence. It is always better to prevent a disease, rather than deal with the aftermath if at all possible. Many of the qualities listed below must awaken you to your own value and inspire you to choose your own life path.

Some other people will only......

1.  Make time for you when it’s convenient for them.

Don’t use too much of your time with someone who only wants you around when only it’s convenient for them. You shouldn’t have to force someone to make a space in their life for you, or be in a relationship with someone who overlooks your worth. Know that you are self-worthy, and do move ahead. It’s obvious, but any relationship without regular interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially when there’s a lack of commitment.

2.  They hold your past against you.

Some people will refuse to accept that you are no longer who you used to be – that you’ve made mistakes in the past, learned from them, and moved past them.  They may not be accept that you’re growing and moving on with your life, and they will try to control you. Keep moving forward.

3.  You feel trapped.

Healthy relationships leave the doors and windows wide open.  Plenty of acceptance is flowing and no one feels trapped.  Relationships do thrive in this kind of unrestricted environment.  You, or your partner can come and go as you please, but you choose to stay because where you are is where you want to be.
 

4.  They discredit your dreams and abilities.

If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you let them to hold you back.  What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you.  It depends a lot on what you choose to do with your time and energy. They of course will try to get you to devote time and energy only towards them.
  Do look beyond the presumptions and limitations of others, and  en-vision of how YOUR life can be. And move towards it.

5.  They have lied to you more than once.

Love is an activity, no matter what the mass media tell you. Love is not just feelings of passion and romance between lovers; it is an approach and behavior among friends and family.  If someone lies to you, more than a couple of times - they do not value your relationship. You must address the events, and resolve them, or limit your contact in those areas they have trouble with. Be it all, or in part.

6.  Their negativity is rubbing off on you.

The negative people in your life don’t just behave negatively towards you, but towards life.  What they say and do is a projection of their own reality – their own inner challenges.
This is important to remember because what these negative people say and do shouldn’t be taken to heart.  Although you don’t have control over what they say and do; you do have control over whether or not you allow them to say and do these things to you. Remember they cannot tip dirty water into the bucket if the lid is closed.

7.   They are excessively envious of what you have.

Envy is not OK, when someone is envious of what you have, there’s a good chance what they really want is to steal it from you. Either show them how they can get a similar (or to them a better thing), or dispose of them as surely as you can.
(That doesn't mean to kill them, as much as that might be the right thing to do - the best way is to use an authority they respect in their life to control them in a direction away from you-)
Excessive envy doesn’t tell you how much someone admires you, it tells you how much they dislike themselves.

8.  They motivate you to be judgmental or hateful.

Some people are avoidable, and some types even more so. Yet to tell a personality quickly you find out how they talk about others - this is the real them.
If you judge others as a group by their culture, religion, skin color, or their outer beauty, you do miss something good about who they really are.
People who motivate you to judge or hate others are bad company. They will turn on you as soon as it's needed to for their own gratification.
Some groups, and their belief systems, are ones you do want to be around,  do move with your feet, rather than your mouth - you will more easily get to where you want.

9.  They want you to be someone else.

If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. Ask yourself, and then them, why?
Maybe you could be on the path to a better life - make sure it is yours - not theirs.  It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by pretending to be like someone you’re not.

Thought for the day: Be aware of the ways the insecure use to hold you. 

Move forward, and keep moving forward. There are some good people in the world, it is up to you to invite and welcome, and be a little attractive to the good into your life

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Re-write our life history - Living without regret is it possible?

Looking outside of the fog created

Honesty with ourselves,- can you answer the questions of regret? And is it really possible to get past it all?  

Do not be wanting to be impressive to others. – When you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really wanted to be.


You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire lesser quality people.  Let them live their own lives, their ambition level is theirs to own.

Letting someone else create your dreams for you. – Sometimes you’ll do things considered different by others, and a lot of times they will either overtly, or with subterfuge try and keep you in their safe space. To be standing your ground and walking your own path, is a better choice than living a life of subservience.

Keeping negative company. – Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. They can’t tip dirty water into the bucket if the lid is closed. Do remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation. And do insulate yourself from them, they try and control their diminishing world, by removing other peoples lives.

Being selfish and egotistical. – A life focused on you is good - yet to be manipulative or gross in your demands will attract the multitudes of either parasites or 'defenders of the right' to you, and they will reciprocate the damage you cause.

Avoiding change and growth. – Growth, and adaption to positive circumstances are your ideal. To not do so, is to rot like an old fruit, or cabbage, with its attendant distaste.

Giving up when the going gets tough. – Even if things don’t turn out the way you had expected, don’t be too disheartened or give up.  Learn the ways and things that didn't work this time, and the parts that did.  Refresh your mind, and keep moving forward.

Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life is better in results, and experience being guided, not strangled. To pay attention to the details is important, yet to form and operate a standard approach to include them is easier than trying to actively control them all, or other people.

Settling for less than you design. –Those that compromise make easy customers, it is better for you design your own life and pursue it with a little persistence - and adaption.

Endlessly waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, often there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.

Being lazy and vague. – The world doesn’t owe you anything, or anyone else either really. Allow yourself have some responsibility for your life – take control one thing at a time. And then another, and so on. After a short while you will be getting what you want, rather than what others may or may not dispense you.

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To be Self reliant, Self determined, Self motivated and a little Selfish - isn't Success lonely?

Choosing a successful life

A successful life does mean that you are and can be self reliant, self determined, self disciplined, and in charge of your own destiny. 

Your fate is in the hands of you, and no-one else. You do get to to plan your life, and it's path.

Lonely- not really, you don't have the same amount, or thankfully the same type of friends as a less successful person.

You get to be selective, because you know the rules of -

1- contagion of failure, and negativity.
2- to others you appear as you seem to be, so you do avoid the lower echelons.
3- you know the value of time and life, and........
4- better thinking people do offer better opportunities to each other.


Consequently, there being more authentic people in this group, you have less, and more reliable friends, than perhaps the person happy with their regular employment.

Being a 'lone wolf,' as it has been called, and doing things your own way can give you more flexibility to  be with the ones you care about.

Being a 9-5er, or in fact whatever set hours you work - takes time away from you in a structured way, that could have been spent with your family and friends.

Being successful, allows you to incorporate different events into your schedule, small but valuable pockets of time.

To be alone at times, gives you essential time to reflect (meditate), and revise, and plan - without the influential chatter of society - which is not your most helpful guide.

It is not so much to be alone. You meet people, you are around people. Now you actually get the choose to have people in your association or not.

A secret- your friends encourage your success or not by emotional reinforcement. It could be time to be a reliable friend to some additional people, who allow you to be successful. The choice is yours.

If the right people don’t want to be around you then that is a problem you can start to correct.

Instead of alcohol, or some other diversion, that costs you, invest a little energy for self-improvement, and then a little action day by day.

Human beings are trained to be social creatures and most end up needing the company of humans.
In prison, and school, solitary confinement or an exclusion is used as a punishment. Yet that doesn't mean you need them all in your life. Choose those who are best for you.

It is better to not require constant attention, approval or validation from family, friends, peers and colleagues. They won't give it to you all, because of their fears, envy and personal insecurities.

It is better for you, to be driven from within. Their approval and validation may come with time and success but it won’t come from playing by their rules.


If you are worried about being alone, don’t let your loneliness become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Work out what you want, and what type of people you would like in your life -
 Even the puppy fat blonde seeking a wealthy husband to support her lifestyle thinks, plans ahead, and acts to get her reward. (Mostly she fails to maintain the effort to keep it going- but you can change this for you.)
Copy her programme, not her grasping philosophy, and you will succeed.

Be the person you wish to be and one that other people you value might feel OK about being with. It really is all up to you, and it is more rewarding for you that way.

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Is it Poverty To be Average, or not? How do Rich People really Think?

Avoid the breadline - change your path.

Some of the ways rich people    Do   Think Differently - Than those who are happy being not wealthy. 

 To be 'rich' or genuinely wealthy read on -

1) Average people think MONEY is the root of all evil. Rich people believe POVERTY is the root of all evil.
Average people live in FEAR of money. You’ll  often hear average people say things like "I would never try and make money from this. I would never do this just for money" etc. This fear of money is a one-way ticket to a place you do not want to end up in. Don’t be ashamed of your need or want for money, or what it can do. Excuses are for those afraid to determine their very own path in life.


2) Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue.
Everyone is selfish, but there are two types of selfishness: overt selfishness and covert selfishness. You want to be OVERTLY selfish. Covert selfishness is for manipulators, and bullies. When you come out and say to yourself "I want it my way and I’ll have it my way, and allow others to have it their way" you do indeed get what you want.


3) Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality.
 Losers state all the time, "if I could just win the lottery. If I could just get a chance. If my big break would come in"  Notice the  IF word, and the waiting without action.
To get the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow you most likely have to take movement towards it.


4) Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.
Universities are self perpetuating indoctrination facilities, and full of educated sponge/rs.
(And of course, dependent men and woman for your cheap entertainment).
You must educate yourself. You really don’t need to spend time in formal studies to learn it. Every thing is available in some way, for free. If you want to learn about it the only thing stopping you is you. It is up to YOU to learn your craft.
Out of the system - you can easily learn all you need to know to start your new million - in about 6 weeks.  Contact us if you would like.


5) Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future.
Some people call it planning for the future,  but equally so maintain a visual of the future and how you will be in it. Actually see yourself as you wish to be.
"Things used to be so great, but nowadays…."
Put that idea aside for the purchasers of your product, and shape your future the way you want it to be.


6) Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.
Money is like an extra emotion to poor people. They verbalize- "I can’t ever have enough to pay rent and the car payment and the electric bill."
Money is an emotion, in the sense of control and power, used in this way by skilled advertisers, politicians, bankers, and other manipulative 'criminals.'
Really start to think about it like you think about your next 3-30 chess moves. Learn to play chess, to improve your life skills. Chess sets here, and books to help here.
If you’re poor…..reduce outgoings…and then get to work, plan ahead, and quit spending your money on other people's plans for you.
Sadly the book The Richest Man in Babylon has a number of good ideas in it- buy it, study it, and implement some of the ideas.


7) Average people earn money doing things they don’t love. Rich people follow their passion.
The correct word is not passion- this is a deceit it is obsession with focus and persistence. Rich people persist actively in their obsessions to the ends of the earth and beyond. Average people can’t understand this because their obsession stops at their favorite sports team, TV show, the pub, or smoking THC or Meth, or some other similar activity


8) Average people set low expectations so they’re never disappointed. Rich people evaluate a challenge.
"Don’t worry about it. It’s no big deal. Why do you expect so much. Let’s just go and watch the game!"
"Oh well, that will do, it's near enough"
If you hear these comments - these people make easy customers - but  poor and ineffective employees, or life and business associates.



9) Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich.
"What do I have to get or do to get rich?" or " What is the quickest way? I need it all now"
Rather than - "Now can we attract? What do they want?"


10) Average people follow fashions.Rich people promote trends.
The promoter gets the rewards, the follower, comes of course behind.


11) Average people dress to stand out.Rich people dress in a way to inspire others confidence.
An average person has a number of poorly kept fashion labels, or not, - in an attempt to be accepted or noticed. Something like an overly noisy car.
A wealthy person cares for their wardrobe, and dresses at all times to inspire confidence in others.


12) Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people’s money.
To remember, you were not born with a baby cot filled with dollars - and if you were - you do have to respond in certain ways to keep the flow coming to you.
A good starting attitude is -"How can I attract, and maintain the flow?"


13) Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they’re driven by emotion and greed.
Logic is only one part of the picture. If you look at everything logically you aren’t looking at the big picture, as most people in the world have been indoctrinated to think emotionally. When you speak to them logically you are not getting through to them. If you want to get access to them - you will have to inspire emotions -it is a lot faster.



14) Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.
Your ambition is to have your expenses met by others, not for you to meet them - aim for this.


15) Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their youth to get rich.
An average person will only encourage those in their domain to be average. Generally the ideas that college, a full time job, then giving spare cash to the bankers to play with for retirement is the only answer. Safety - as proposed by your most unfavorite politician - is the mantra of the people destined to be poor.


16) Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.
Money is freedom and does indeed buy you freedom. If you have a money flow you have some control of your life. When you have money you do have the pleasure of saying no.


17) Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.
Television, magazines, celebrity websites, sports – the consumption of the average.
If you can’t learn or earn from it, avoid it, - or sell it to the majority.


16) Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.
Rich people understand the relevance of association, and the contagiousness of fear and poverty thinking. Average people cannot hide their envy and jealousy.
They made the poor decision to be employees, and now you’re a devil because you are either free and/or have money.

You must dispose of these types, by any means possible - they are the criminals that steal your time and assets, and they do sadly breed, reproducing more of the same.


18) Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.
How many people have told you of the wonderful benefits of saving for retirement and how you can finally live like a king when you’re 65? Most of these promoters, lose the fees (and taxes) you give them while they access your earned reserves, as in fact if it is money - it gets less in value as time goes on due to inflation and deception. Focus on creating a flow.



19) Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.
Considered risks bring rewards. Do ensure the promoter is you, not a government employee, or agent.


20)  People love to be 100% comfortable. Rich people find comfort in a future.
Average people don’t want to do anything except eat processed food and watch TV. Wasting your day in any form is not a valid life choice- these are the people that you can promote or sell to - you must be part of the active crowd to be wealthy.



21) Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.
"Well, at least I have my health" The same people, eat and live fashionably, as proposed by their television.
If something has to advertised, or promoted by the news on TV - the camera only points the one way that they choose -not you.
The reality is that money is what is sought by the establishment trained doctors/dentists/drug companies- so it does buy -in western society- the best medical care and the best drugs, as unfair as that is.

You must make health part of your 13 point plan for success, learn how to be healthy, and do not use it as an excuse for failure. And of course avoid wasting your time and money with the essentially corrupt standard medical system.


22) An average person believes.A wealthy person creates belief.
Most average people respond passively to any thing, and believe like many a fairy tale character in the authorities show. Many a charity is formed with good intent, yet those who remain average use up their lifetime loudly convincing others to join the cause.
A consistently wealthy or rich person, will work to create a belief that that the consumers or average persons follow.



23) Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.
Average people are excuse-makers, (prime warning sign), and are mediocre because of their choice. A family isn’t a burden or an obstacle in making money, for these people it’s an excuse to be lazy and coast at a job. A friend was a solo father with children from the age of 2, growing up - and he still easily made over a million dollars in the real world. These children are now in their twenties, and very well grounded, and successful in their own right.
 (This doesn't say much for the previous and current crop of demanding solo-mothers).
Rich people demand more out of life, and they get it. Demand more, especially from yourself, and your quality of life will go up.


Stay away from poor thinking people - it is comparative to being around a contagious disease - their daily thoughts/habits/in-actions lead them to be in poor health. 
And like Ebola, Tuberculosis, and even the Flu, you absolutely do not want it - there must be no exceptions.

Do not allow them in your home, or mind - if they are there just now - start associating anyway you can with truly successful people - not the blowhards in the neighborhood or on the internet. Learn what success really is and associate with more of those people. Leave all the others to enjoy their chosen life. 





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