I'm so Stressed out, What am I doing wrong? 10 real life tips to make it easier.

A warrior in the world

Stress as we often know it. is the internal 'war' of opposing desires and expectations.

Usually; - the expectations or ambitions we have for ourselves, as opposed to those same demands 'society' has for us.

Society as such, considers itself more important than me and you, and attempts to influence you through manipulation in the form of advertising, whether it be with TV shows behaviorally, or directly with advertisements saying 'borrow this money from us now to feel better, or buy this now to feel better.'

Sadly, if they cannot influence you, they do influence your surrounding human co-inhabitants of life - (who will not be on the same path towards success as you.)

By you recognizing stress within yourself - you must for a start congratulate yourself for being so aware, then begin to ease the biochemical toxins it is creating within you, as you work on plans for the life you desire for your self.

To help you manage stress; begin to think of your body as a machine with a good supply of energy which needs regular care, and maintenance to function well.

With that in mind here are 10 simple tips:

1. Be conscious of your food intake. Limit the chocolate, the flour/sugar/fat combinations (biscuits, cakes, crackers, breads etc). Reduce your white rice, noodle, or packeted foods. Start to learn what a balanced nutritious diet is, and support your physique with regularly spaced eating times.

2. Sleep when stressed is either an escape or seems like a waste of time. Change your thinking a little.
Treat, and think of sleep as a chance to refresh your physical body - to repair the cells if you like.
Establish somewhere safe to sleep, keep it and your bedding clean - without residual chemical odours, and try for fresh air, if you are able and it is safe leave a skylight or window open - locked, and consider sleeping in a space with growing non-allergenic plants.
Turn the TV, radio off - no subliminal all night tapes, if you need a light on, put it several meters or yards away - low down.
Be a little comfortable, warm, and clean if you can as well.
Do sleep away from power lines, and cables, and radio antennas.

3. Engage in regular light to moderate exercise, even walking round in a specified number of circles in your flat or house is a start. A daily 1 mile or 1km walk if safe is even better - can you walk partway to work?

4. Set a priority or two in your daily tasks and concentrate on essentials for you, as well as obviously working for your boss or controller authority -  rather than feeling that you have to do every single thing.

5. There are 24 hours in our day, and you are allowed to work as long as you like, or engage an assistant. Think outside the 'normal' pattern.

6. If a task seems too hard, or too big, break it down into small steps or small goals and focus on achieving the first step or goal before moving on to the next one. (Do the thinking and acting privately, and announce your results and the important part they play in the organizations goals publicly.)

7. Take some time each day, and a special time once a week to relax. The daily time will be better for you if it is some meditation - not TV, magazines, or pub or bar time.
The Christian's have it partly right with the sabbath - it is meant as your duty day to the church establishment, and a specific indoctrination (schooling) time. But - you now think of it as your day to engage in your rest, planning, hobbies, self care etc.

8. Remember the biochemical idea, medically it is very accurate; - so lay off the coffee, alcohol, nicotine, THC, or other drugs, whether they are to relax or stimulate you. Develop a new pattern of only three drinks a night for example, then two drinks next week, then one drink, then one a week.
You will find some new and supportive friends with this thinking, and free up money and time to make the situation easier.

9. Be careful who you listen to, they all have their own desires. agendas, and issues, - often it is better to select parts of each person's ideas, than their whole philosophy. Government agencies, or employees, are not there to help you, government funded ones may give you a better (50/50) chance of success.

10. Hide some resources away privately and safely - if it is money, make sure it is tax paid, and you hide two or three copies of the receipts in two or three different places and/or upload them somewhere private and safe - say DriveHQ - (the employees of the revenue office will falsify the truth at any chance they have). Grow even a little of of your own food, even one herb plant is a good start.
Make sure only you know, this will give you a sense of power and control over your life, and relieve the stress.



Some recommended links to start you on your easier life..... 

  Buy Roy Sheppards book - "..Be The One", and read it, and start to work at it

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You need help with your relationship – but what if ?...The advice lottery

A successful relationship?

Signs of Good Relationship Advice

You need help with your relationship – but what if you get bad relationship advice?


These 10 signs of good
relationship advice will help you know if you’re getting help that will actually improve or save your relationship.

 

How to Recognize Good Relationship Advice

1. Your family is giving you relationship advice for their own reasons
You must be very specific, in asking why;- several times in fact.
Adult children, have there own exploration in life to undertake, and are mostly not to be listened to, after the first meeting of your partner.


2. Your friends are jealous of your relationship
Friends, are usually a great help with first assessments, past that time or those few minutes, they are either afraid of losing you, jealous of what you have and they can not, or deceptive in their intent.
Especially if they are damaged children, or the like.

Numbers 1 and 2 and closely enmeshed, do pay attention to your own life path as well.

3. The advice giver is objective – a sign of good relationship advice
 Listen for subjective statements - name calling - the adviser has their own unresolved immaturity to get through - their advice will NOT help you. 

4. Your inner feelings are telling you this is good or bad relationship advice
  Whether it is right or wrong, it is right or wrong for you just now.

5. You know yourself – a super way to recognize good versus bad relationship advice
As in number 4, take some time out in solitude, meditate if necessary.

6. The advice giver has the full picture of your relationship – the good, the bad, and the ugly
No matter if you are some at fault, an answer given with half the information gives poor results.

7. The advice giver has given you good relationship advice in the past
Did you listen the first time? Possibly this adviser has skills you can learn from.

8. The advice giver has healthy, good relationships
They are able to prove what they say works - if they cannot - keep your distance.

9. The relationship advice is from a good resource
Hard to say what is good, yet if it fits all the other characteristics here it probably is.

10. The relationship advice is honest and unbiased
They take into account both sides, without pity, or judgement.
Who is paying them?, and what rewards do they hope to get from this interaction?
Questions you must ask to avoid bad advice, predators, lawyers, corrupt and greedy people, and cults.

If it is government or lottery funded, their task is to add you to their numbers, and the quality of the help may be either good or bad - do treat it as an emergency 'band-aid' to use and move on without, as quickly as you can.



Some recommended links to start you on your better life..... 

  Buy Roy Sheppards book - "..Be The One", and read it, and start to work at it

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*If your situation is unsafe/or may be unsafe - get local trusted registered professional advice from more than two unrelated identities.see important note. 

This was a Good Relationship, Is it Finished? I am Feeling like it is Over.

Thinking is it over?

A relationship, or even a marriage may indeed at times feel like it is better being ended. 

 

Now you chose to be in it or take it on originally - do re-think why you allowed, encouraged, or planned it to start.

 

Or are you going through some of the typical phases of a long-term, committed partnership?


Sometimes counseling with a realistic professional is all that is needed to re-establish the path of mutual success.

Just because you’re struggling with problems in your relationship, doesn’t always mean your partnership is un-saveable, or headed for a divorce court.
(Which will only drain you, and enrich some would say corrupt lawyers and crooked judges - or is it the other way around?)

The following signs may indicate the end of all, or only one stage of your partnership.

 9 Signs Your Relationship is Over ??

1) Your partner can’t see the reality of you being together 

 

If your partner doesn’t understand how his or her actions are affecting you – and even worse, refuses to chat about it, and attempt a few changes (with your positive encouragement) – then your relationship or marriage will be a challenge to rebuild. It may be worth re-evaluating your life habits, and choices at a distance, while you learn new skills for you.

2) Your partner sees how things are, but doesn’t show they care

 

You can communicate with all of your current skills, but if your partner doesn’t care how you feel or whether the relationship is healthy, then perhaps it’s a sign it is best to start over. The habits you have created, and the responses they bring on, will take effort to change. When a non-caring is exhibited, there is usually an underlying issue, that is being protected or defended. Are you prepared to address what is most likely a major problem you are part of?

3) You don’t connect with your partner

 

When you first got together, you probably felt understood, heard, and connected with your partner. As time goes on, and the influences of 'friends,' family, the issues of daily life, money and possibly a house, children, or careers all take a toll…and you find that you each have a preferred way of dealing with society's stressors. The mutual decision making is not so together anymore.

4) You have different visions of the future of your life together.

 

She wants a four million dollar home at the seaside, with all her girlfriend's visiting for drinks: and he wants to live in a rustic cabin on a ranch in the country. She wants six children, many grandchildren, and their hanger ons- of course all funded by?? and he’d rather travel and be child-free for a reasonable while.
She wants her mom, aunt, and cousins to live with you in the family home; you can barely tolerate the gossip at thanksgiving or Christmas.
To succeed you do need to agree on your vision as a couple or family – and consider your plan or life together first (and other influences/influencers second).

5) You’re not physically intimate (if this is important it is over)

 

If you have no love life anymore, to speak of, then you probably aren’t connecting on an intimate emotional and physical level.
There may be power and control issues going on - sadly if someone is in an immature state of mind to do this - just leave- quickly, and quietly. It is a form of abuse, and control, made famous by the KGB- so you are being played, and it is likely your partner is ending the relationship, by a manipulation.

6) You fight the “wrong” way in your partnership

 

If you can’t focus on the topic of your argument, choosing instead to bring up past mistakes or reopen old wounds, then you need to learn different skills away from this relationship. The more past conflicts come into current arguments, the less healthy your approach is.
This may not be a certain sign your partnership is over, but if you keep acting like this, the other person will revert their behaviour to what you keep talking about.

Propose good, you'll get good; threaten, or remind of unwanted past events - you won't get good at all.

7) Your partner cheats and wants to end the relationship/marriage

 

Many couples survive unarranged infidelity, and may end up with a stronger bond because of it. Other couples split up right away, as it was a sign of the other failings in the relationship or people. It’s how the partners approach the solution, that determines if they’ll stay together.

8) Your partner allows their past to intrude.

 

Ex-husbands, ex-wives, or ex's at all. Adult brat children. The list goes on; what partnership is this really, when they have not indeed separated themselves, and offered some commitment to the present.
Unless you want a triage or similar for yourself, leave and find a more mature partner.

9) You or your partner is abusive

 

If your actions are causing a response you don't like, change them. If it goes on for a week or two after this, there is something your partner is trying to control in you.

Look at yourself realistically on a day away from them or the situation.

Many women for example, are abrasive or verbally threatening in their responses to a perceived wrongdoing - and then question the reactions.
Many men for example, promise too much, and life gets in the way.
Time out, on site, or away from each other  - can give you each a chance to determine the next move.




Some recommended links to start you on your better life..... 

Buy Roy Sheppards book - "..Be The One", and read it, and start to work at it

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The ability to arouse our emotions either for good or bad is what really drives us

We can either do this for ourselves, or allow others to do it for - or
to us.


Your ability to use emotion to connect with others is something that will have a profound impact on your success in the world.

People are seeking connection, and  this is one of the most important things others generally desire. Their decision-making ability is based on emotions, and/or the seeking of that connection.

One of the biggest mistakes most of us make in our work or business, is thinking that being professional is enough. As well as the practical skills, an emotional connection and to allow another to  feel connected or heard

The more of a bond you create with others, the more you are likely to be employed, and the more you are likely to do well.

If people feel an emotional connection to you, they are likely to want to be around you.


A note in point - if someone is unable to connect with others emotionally, they will typically feel alone and isolated.

Connectivity is what every relationship is built upon. It’s getting in touch, feeling what the people you are with feel, seeing life the way they see it, and looking at the situation from their point of view.

 It’s about conveying to others that you appreciate what they’re doing and that they are of some value.


You can do this even if you do not like them,and what they are doing at that moment may not be of use;-

 Yet to them it is - so encourage them for what good they do.

As you must encourage and value you for the good you do.

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When does the dance start - a story about intention

Desire and action bringing rewards

 As she shyly stood there in the dress of her dreams, the hall echoed with the sounds of the dance band.

All the other boys and girls really looked like they were having fun.She felt alone, and began to wonder if it was the way she looked, or even the dream dress she and her mom had sewn together.

 She remembered how they laughed together, and how her mom had quietly shared how embarrassed that she had felt at her first dance.
She had felt so beautiful when she stood in front of the mirror at home. Now all her friends had left her, and were dancing with the boys.
What was wrong? I am clean-even the priest had complimented her as she walked past the church on the way to the dance hall, and all the boys heads turned as she walked in.

The song ended, and her friends came back and sat with her, chatting excitedly about their dance partners.She tried to join in, yet they didn't really seem to want to listen. She thought about it, and replayed the scene in her mind of the boys coming over to ask each girl for a dance. why didn't they choose me? especially when they all seemed to look at me in the beginning.
In a few more minutes the music would change, and another dance would  be.
"I'll pick a boy to dance me," she said aloud. There was a sudden silence as all the other girls stopped talking. Then they began to say-"you can't do that-it is never done like that-that's unfair-you will pick the best one-what about us":
She said-"you know I think you are right-but I'm going to try just to see how it goes"

She stood up, and walked across the room-half doubting herself. As she reached the group of boys they turned and looked- she said " I would like to dance with you".............

Act upon your desire with an intent of purpose-most are afraid of that.

Most people will be able to led with that as well - note the groups seeming fear of the beauty and her confidence.
They may never approach you, and often not the one you want may end up approaching you--You must relax and move forward with some confidence. She already had been given positive directives before the dance had started.



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Been betrayed - I have, and how to deal with it.

As I think about what has happened

Instead of feeling the safety expected in the situation, you seem to be suffering a huge emotional hit that brings forth the feelings of a loss of control.

 (Which in fact is the other parties desirable result-you have lost control - they have it).

A trust implied or expected gets broken, and the strong emotions may arrive and get stuck.A feeling of being safe in your world is shaken.

The three R’s of rage, revenge and retaliation are often considered.Not the most immediately helpful choices.

Brain and body chemistry changes as you might go into a sympathetic nervous system response getting ready to fight or run. At times a person can get locked into this fight/flight energetic (captive- or in old english - stymied) state.

 Instead of a trigger being created when events are similar-we must move past this.

Some people hold grudges as a defense against being hurt again.Good temporary protection-there are better ways. To keep on chewing on unhappy memories only leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. When you are disappointed about somebody- release those expectations and move past it rather than let a bitter attitude set in.

Not every person in the world is specifically out to get you.

Everyone has there own ways of meeting their equilibrium- and maybe or maybe not they can stay in your life space.
Some are good cooks, some are good with money, some are good at different things-allow them their specialty= and associate with those in different areas that work for both you and them.

 People who tie their self-esteem to feeling superior, pride and self-righteousness are typically caught in a big energetic imbalance to their entire system. Many extremely angry people don’t have a way to release their dogmatic ways of thinking and acting.
The issue here is not about being right or wrong but in gaining peace of mind for you.

Anger is a natural human reaction, and is in fact empowering, both psychologically and in body chemistry.

Many people choose THC-cannabis, alcohol. or other sedatives to relieve  the intensity of the frustration. Or abandon themselves into a safe world of TV or the internet.
All the legal ones are good short term.

Go back to the post What direction should I go now read the 10 methods, and begin there.

A time honored emotional quick release help is the use of a positive thought attached to a physical key. See below;

Sit quietly- go back in your mind to a pleasurable emotional event- play the picture story through your mind, with the sounds, and the smells.Take your writing hand and touch your 2nd finger to the other hand's thumbnail or the like-the idea is to use your dominant side crossing your whole body in a way that only you know.
Hold the pleasurable thoughts-replay the scene again- being aware of your breathing. Let go and come back into the 'real' world.
Do this three times a day for 7 consecutive days, take a day off, then repeat the cycle for another 2 weeks.

Go back to the post What direction should I go now, and read the 10 methods again.



  Recommended links to help you.....

• Patricia Evan's books:- Recognizing and dealing with verbal abuse. (read them all!)

• George Simon's books:- Dealing with manipulative people. (buy and read them all!)

• 'The Dangerous Woman'  or  'Venus the dark side'  -- Both Highly recommended reads

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