24 Ways To Be Attractive to Women, Aren't they just a parasite? or are they of value?

Attractive and knowing it.

Firstly ask yourself some questions;

1; Will you tolerate the existence of a parasite in your life?

2; How long can you handle supporting this parasite and their hosts?

3; Have you, or are you developing the strength to protect yourself?

4; What parts of your life, and your dreams are you willing to give up?

5; Are the rewards worth it? How can you make them worth it?

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90 % of western woman, particularly UK, US, AU, and NZ, and to a degree Scandinavian, and Canadian - have been brought up on the Hollywood fairy-tales of old, or the X-factor of today. 

(Sadly, the eastern Europe, Russian, and Asian beauties are heading this way too- their advantage, is there have been less generations exposed to the propaganda.)

These have shown these woman, their mothers with unlived lives, and their friends - that to look shiny - without any real contribution gets you picked from the crowd - to a life of eternal bliss and recognition. All at of course, other peoples cost and effort.


So this is the market you may have to choose from, Now either-

1; Move cultures and countries,
 (If you can find somewhere untouched by Hollywood - your chances will be better--possibly Mars, or even the Moon.)

2; Use the 90% as practice for the rare 10% - ensuring you have had a vasectomy, and avoid all the other traps they will try to use.
NB the 10% are often disguised, they definitely won't be blonde or coloured hair, employed by any part of government, or a horse rider.
All indicators of an easily duped, needy or dependent emotional manipulator.

3;Avoid all women, or men in that thinking zone

4;Accept the market situation, and show yourself in your best light to get some rewards, protecting yourself and your future.

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Numbers 2 and 4 being close to most peoples reality - read below.

These new qualities will give you the edge, to succeed. 
Read through and study them all, then take one a week, and start on it, and keep going to build  an amazing life.



1) Look Tall – Hold your posture well. Women want to look up to a man, literally and figuratively.

Learn Reiki, or the Alexander technique. Yoga is good - an older male teacher is best to get you started.
The woman or ego filled young 'male' will try to emasculate you sooner or later - keep them aware of where the money is coming from, and/or take what you have learnt and do it at home.

2) Be Rich – A rich man is a magnet to a beautiful woman. You'll often see the decorative girls in the company of the wealthy.

3) Be Handsome – You will find some people say "Looks don’t matter". A woman likes to be looked up to by her friends with an undercurrent of envy. Looks matter to them – make yourself look the best you can.

4) Be Physically fit – If you are in shape, you can handle both the good and the bad, from her and her world. Mostly it gives you more confidence too.Try The 12 week muscle building program By Brad Pilon M.Sc.

5) Be Highly Confident – You’ve seen the guy in the bar with the sideways baseball cap and the pathetic blonde on his arm following him. Women love the guys we call rubbish. Because the woman are inadequate in themselves, they think they need a protector - be confident enough to give that impression. (You don't need the bar or other loose tart, being with a real and easy confidence attracts a better quality person to you.)

6) Do Not Supplicate to Her – Like a pet almost, they like the security when someone else is in control. Keep her under control if she is not in the equal contribution group, not her keeping you.

7) Be Funny but not Self-Deprecating – Women need to be teased, as this has been their life to date, but they do not love when you make fun of yourself.
Study successful comedians, that do not depreciate others. Mr Bean is pretty good at it.
She wants to look up to you - so don’t tear yourself down, even in a joking manner.

8) Do Not Be Needy – Needy people are used by people or avoided. Get some self reliance started. These woman have been trained from a toddler to express their needs - yours mean nothing to them, unless they get there own way at some point.

9) Don’t be a Nice Guy – You don’t have to be mean or rude to all women, you just don’t ever want to be thought of as a "nice guy"- they get concerned you'll be taken from them, or taken advantage of - then them losing their security.

10) Be Pre-occupied with Your Own World – Make her a part of your world. Whatever you are excited about she will have to learn to be genuinely interested in as well.
If not - confine your time to the one aspect she may offer you, and focus on your life, and associating with others that support this.
There are many women interested in guy's pursuits e.g. hunting, fishing,cars.trucks etc. Do not become a part of her world – do not stay at home and watch chick flicks and TV shows about gay dancers or whatever that is that’s popular right now.
Do your own thing and make sure it is a priority for you. If you have nothing going on then start a new hobby and work on that.

11) Don’t be Too Available – It might seem like she wants a full time handbag (be very aware these get changed as soon as her friends comment on them). What most want is to know you are there for them - and not in bed with someone else. If you are - plan wisely to succeed.

12) Have Excellent Style – Give her an excuse to come and talk to you. Smile often, and be happy with life.
Clothe yourself  to give the impression of security - even charity shop clothes can look amazing - get the women assistants on your side with a story.

13) Make Decisions – When she says "what do you want for dinner?" you say shall we have-"Roast partridge with everything, and then dessert and wine".
Don’t play the "I dunno, what do you want?" game, or "I'd love rice, vegan, fried turtle toenails or locust eggs because you love them."
1- Nearly every western educated woman thinks either white rice, or McDonalds is a superior nutrition choice - you will die before 60 eating their fashionable food choices
and 2- They want to be lead, as this is their life training.

14) Be Assertive in Bed – Women do not like timidity, especially in the bedroom. Be a Gentleman in public, be a caveman in private. By all means study the  Kama Sutras together....and practice them, but you suggest the next move.

15) Do Not Fall for Internet Pick-Up Artist (PUA) advice – These programs. have a few good ideas, but even the lowest qualilty woman see through them, and now you. Concentrate on this list here, and be yourself.

16) Do not take advice from women about how to win a woman’s heart –Not even your mother, if you really get on with a close sister - maybe. They will lie to your face and tell you to be nice, buy her things, bring her roses and all the other things destined to diminish you. They will also lie to other women and say things like ....no, you aren’t fat! You should eat what you want! Your haircut doesn’t make you look like a boy, it’s super cute!
As inadequate beings, competition by any means is their mantra.

17) Give up Masturbation and Internet Porn - Porn is good for retraining your mind to accept different behaviors or norms. Also to see that there are some attractive women in the world - who do take care of themselves, and know how to act . Use the contact form if you want some good sites.
Reducing your attention to it, will do wonders for your confidence, your energy levels, your ambition and your charisma.
Masturbation on your own, is a good quick biochemical release, yet you will get more of a better quality woman when you can mentally control your 'hormones.' Buy and read Napoleon Hill's books.


18) Don’t Be Scared to Say Hi – Picking up women is simply a numbers game. If you see a desirable girl on the street, and she gives you some eye contact, go ahead and say "hi". "Hello" is a bit formal, "hi" is much better. To get over that fear of talking to women make a deal with yourself to say hi to 5 girls one day, 6 girls the next day, 7 girls the next - all ages and types - (remember the competition thinking; they are watching) - and so on until it’s a matter of habit. Next thing you know they want to talk to, and be with you..

19) Be skillful at something - Better you are not a showoff or blowhard, you'll only attract groupies with STD's, or baby factories looking to strip you of your assets and life. Do hide your wallet.
Having a skill, craft, or work even music, cooking, dog training, fly-fishing, sports etc, or other - allows them to look up to you, and talk to their 'friends' about you (respect.) And you enjoy your life.

20) Make sure you know there are many good women; best not to tell them this, yet if you have this true belief- your confidence and attractiveness will bring you many rewards.

21) Stay clean- STD's are an inconvenience at best, keep yourself clean, and assume they are not, until proven otherwise. Shower or bathing, and mouth washing immediately before sex should be an absolute, say something about now you love the feel of them after a shower/bath; and if you have sex for more than a couple of hours at a time - take a break, both of you shower/sauna/swim or bathe - then return to the fun.
Clean yourself between partners if you have more than one; - as well as freshening up by bathing, spermicidal gels are a good and socially acceptable inter-partner disinfectant, even if you have worn a condom.
(Read the label before applying, and follow the instructions.)

22) Get a vasectomy- it costs only a little, especially compared to a lifetime of emotional or financial drain; it should really be every lad's 14 year old birthday present.
Get affidavits receipts, and the clinical report following to show the success of it, and upload them somewhere private and safe - say DriveHQ . Keep it all to yourself, and have fun.
It can be reversed when needed, and there are many little children that need adopting - if this woman is suggesting children or talking about them, - Can you afford you, her, and them for the next 20 plus years??
Does she have a plan that she will act on to help you??- if not find a better deal - she will.

23) Get other people talking about you - most of my film, music, and TV personality friends find it easy to collect women or men of their choice.
Again, all the woman wants to do is is to satisfy her mother's unlived life, or be the top reptile in her gossip group of friends.
  As pathetic as that is - that is their destiny - so you may as well capitalize on it.
Doesn't need to be fame so much, more societal recognition with spending money. As many a priest, or guru will tell you. Do stick to what you want - good people in any pastime or work with other people's promotion is the aim.

24) Travel- It allows you to see all the choices in the world, it makes you appealing to her, as you can talk about all these mystical places with all the future that promises - It indicates you can focus on a goal and are unafraid to go through it.
 It gives her a concern you are a free spirit, so she will have to work at the relationship to be part of it - have you read and done #22 above?? Be aware of being trapped, there are only 10% of woman suitable for a partnership at best.

NB. If at any time they minimize you or your things, and do it once more after you've told them nicely that this is a better way to speak or think - find a new one as quietly and quickly as you can,
One does not tear down a money machine still expecting cash next week.

These woman are disposable, no matter even if they look beautiful, are ok in bed (there is always better), or wealthy- and you must allow yourself better.  

There are plenty more, just waiting for you now.

Go back and start with 8-9 of the above traits and you will see the change in women. 

Remember that 90 % of western woman, are brought up, trained by society and advertising, to be dependent passives; - you like in life must take charge to get anything close to what you want. 

The real truth is that you need to concentrate on your success and life, you do need to be the master of your own domain, and you do need to bring her into your world and not drop into her world (like always watching chick flicks, or eating diet food or white rice and chocolate biscuits every Friday night), and you need to hold yourself to a masculine standard.

You choose some of the furniture in your domain.

If you are not a woman, you don't need to act like one. Nor should she act like a 'man.'

Appreciate her, encourage her partnership with your life if you trust her, or trust her in the areas you might trust her - do not worship her, save that for the gods.
Then she has her psychic needs met and you will get your needs met, everybody is happy.




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Eight qualites or 8 traits of a healthy relationship, that we all look for

To enjoy love and life

Yes, relationships do make our world. For better or for worse.

If we lived or were able to live in a world without people, it may not be so.

Sometimes, without just some particular types of people it would be good.

Yet the reality of the world, is that our ability to build, maintain, and enhance our relationships defines our 'success.'

There is a joy to life in a positive fulfilling relationship. And, of course, as many people find out, it brings so much pain when a relationship breaks down, with someone dear to you.

There are a few simple basics that determine most human relationships, and here's a list of the main eight, that make up healthy relationships.

1. Love. Now, this all depends on your definition of  love . We can do much to increase our chances of having terrific relationships—relationships that are fulfilling and exciting, rich with meaning, joy and love.
When you say you like someone, you are talking about how you feel. But when you say that you love someone, you are not necessarily talking about how you feel about them. Love is much deeper than a feeling. It is an action word. Love is a commitment we make to people to always treat that person with empathy, acceptance (you can accept the person - and not accept their actions or behaviour), and reasonable equality (fairness). This is the basis of all healthy relationships.


2. Serving Heart. One of the world's best communicators: - Zig Ziglar says frequently that - "you can have everything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want out of life." The primary concept he is talking about is having a heart and life that is focused on serving other people. Even though he uses it - as you should do too - as a recipe for success.The Christian Bible puts it this way: consider others’ interests as more important than your own. This is a good fundamental to a successful relationship, so long as you consider your own health first. A similar, but better thinking, is to mutually consider others long term interests, guiding them depending on there current abilities.


3. Honest Communication. In any good relationship you will find non-deceptive communication. Communication is important, because it is the vehicle that allows us to verbalize what is inside us and enables it to connect with another person. And this is a vital goal in good relationships—to communicate, to tell each other what we are thinking and what we are feeling. It enables us to make a connection, building the relationship and making it stronger.If we just communicate, we can get by. But if we communicate skillfully, we can go far in life!


4. Friendliness. Put simply, relationships work better when we are friendly with others. The fact is that the friendlier you are the more you are going to have people who want to pursue longer-lasting, mutually beneficial relationships with you. So put on a smile, have a few kind words to say to others, treat people with friendliness, and you will see your all of your relationships improve.


5. Patience. Or tolerance of imperfectness. People are not perfect and most have been brought up differently in some way to us. A lot of relationships break down because people give up and lose patience; - all kinds - of friendships, marriages, business relationships, etc.Those who give up on relationships too early, or because the other person isn’t perfect, often forget that their next friend, their next spouse or business partner will not be perfect either! As in fact they may not be. So we would do well to cultivate this skill and learn to have more patience.


6. Loyalty. Loyalty is a commitment to another person. Sadly, loyalty is often a missing element in many relationships today. Every modern generation after the 1950's has said that. Our consumer mentality has affected this to some degree. It is one thing to switch brands of dish-washing detergent. It is another thing altogether to switch friends. Sometimes we just need to commit to being loyal and let the relationship move forward. This kind of loyalty will take our relationships to a much deeper level. What a powerful and secure feeling of knowing that you have a relationship with someone who is loyal to you and you to them—that neither of you is going anywhere even when things get tough.


7. A Common Purpose. One of the basics of healthy relationships is to have a common purpose, and oftentimes this is a component that is initially overlooked, but for a long-term, long-lasting relationship it is critical. Think about how many friends you have met through the years while working on a common purpose. Working together, building together, failing and succeeding together—all while pursuing a common purpose—is what relationships are made of. Find people with whom you have common purposes and sow the seeds of great relationships, and then the long-lasting benefits will be amazing. 


8. Fun. All good relationships have some element of fun. Now, that doesn’t necessarily mean loud, drunken, or noisy fun. Fun brings enjoyment to the relationship and that is important. This key element can be easily forgotten or neglected in our family and spousal relationships.The fun things we did initially in a new relationship after a while can be taken for granted or simply fall by the wayside, with the demands of life, and we stop creating the fun and smiles. So remember to consciously craft fun situations and moments, for these are the glue that hold our memories together and make our lives sweet. It can be fun in business too, and you will prefer to do business with the successful who are more pleasant to be with.


There are a lot of ingredients in successful, long-lasting relationships. Each of these eight parts brings easy rewards to your relationships. Let’s begin to focus on improving our relationships in these areas and see what miracles occur!


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The goat and the rose bush -- a story of human nature

Goats love just being themselves.

This is both a story of goats' behavior, and of human nature- read on to learn.

Goats are the most wonderful of creatures, intelligent, agile, investigative, and responsive.

 They love company, and with that security show an admirable attitude of independence.

Goats being goats, prefer foraging in places that are interesting, being attracted
 to the sights, scents, and activities of places people may be too.

Meaning your planted trees or gardens; they having watched you carefully tend these, they begin to think -'this might be good', and of course, you have tended these beauties just for them.

If they are in a fenced area, their primary mission in life is to seek the areas outside that fencing; if they notice a fenced area that they may not be allowed in, it is theirs to make their way into.
If they are tied up, there aim is to become released.


They will, watch for you, if you are in their sight and leave, they will seemingly casually make their way to your garden, and begin - and notably probably finish off the the parts they have pre-selected.
And a few more for measure, then they'll move away - as if to say -'It wasn't me.'
If you chose to sleep in a little longer, as the sun warms the ground, they will naturally use this time effectively.

Effective boundaries are really the only way to stop it; no matter how much they are educated of right and wrong, they still will pursue the rose -  and change the landscape as they desire.

How many lessons for you life can you see in this story?

There are positive attributes of always seeking, independence, persistence, awareness, looking out of standard boundaries, finishing what you started, - while you have the chance, giving the appearance of being cool/calm/collected, taking chances, appreciation of a value, and using your time wisely etc etc.

Of course there are negative aspects too. Choose the attitude/lense that you think will help you.


 Focus on building your self esteem by realistically identifying your good qualities - The goat does. 

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In the pit of despair. Why are things so bad? I think I Hate myself, really.........

“Why do I hate myself?"

“I hate myself” is a critical inner voice that people of all ages struggle with.
You most likely don't hate yourself - maybe the activities that you do or not - that bring you to a certain situation, of seeming hopelessness.

Where then, do thoughts like these come from?  Probably negative early life experiences.

Harmful views directed at us by parents,a group of friends, or other people we expect care from, are internalized to some degree.
Just as their positive attitudes toward us may help us to develop self-esteem and confidence, their more critical attitudes can crush us.

There is no useful value now, in blaming others.(It gives all the power to them- and so far they've helped you here).

They may be at fault, yet no one is perfect. Nearly everyone learns from their parents. and they can face challenges when they have children, as they have learnt mostly from their own past. For example, if we had a parent who often acted like we were a nuisance, constantly quieting us or even just appearing tense in our presence, we may take on a feeling about ourselves that we are a bother.
Whereas in fact it usually the adults life issue- then or carried through from before.

“How does hating myself affect my daily life?”

We're probably treating it like a coach and listening to its destructive advice. Don't- it is the wrong coach for you!
When it repeatedly tells us we are worthless, we may choose friends and partners who treat us as if we are worthless.
When we listen to our inner critic, we give it power over our lives.We become a "negative nanny", or naysayer - (not a markedly successful life attitude).
If you want a better life, change.
We may even start to project these critical thoughts onto others. We  perceive the world through its negative filter, and question or criticize people who see us differently from how our voice sees us. Again it is what you have been told or taught by an authority.
 It’s been engrained in us since early childhood, and we therefore often struggle; it is now time to change.

The critical inner voice is like an internal coach negatively commentating on our lives, influencing how we behave and how we feel about ourselves.

It has been put there to try and undermine our goals, and accomplishments: 

-“Who do you think you are? You’ll never be successful!”
-“This won’t end well. Sooner or later you’re going to mess up.”
It’s there to sabotage our relationships:
-“She doesn’t really love you. You shouldn’t trust her.”
 It’s even there to criticize those close to us: 
-“Why does he even hang out with you?
There must be something wrong with him.”
 Finally, this voice can seem self-soothing, encouraging us to act in ways that are self-destructive, then  punishing us:
 -“Go ahead, have that second piece of cake. You’ve had a rough week you deserve it.”
 Later, there will be comments like: 
-“You’re such a fat loser. How could you ruin your diet again?”

We listen to this critical inner voice, and if we mistake it for our real point of view, and we can believe what it tells us about ourselves.

*****It is a method of control - used by authorities - parents as well. By causing our self doubt, they create in us a desire to fill their wishes. We may tell ourselves off, to prevent the pain of rejection from another: - unless you are doing something really bad - in which case change- others views are not important.***

A clone is not as respected or valued as a unique being. Be someone unique.

“What can I do to stop hating myself?” 

To stop our cycle of self-hatred and live free from our imagined limits, we must learn to challenge our inner critic, and over-ride it.
Writing down your common response to situations- and a new positive (possibility focused) answer is a super way.
Or notice an undesired pattern- stop mentally, and think what is a better way.

Here is a simple one to start with:- If you are in a vehicle, next time you are the one left at the red stop light waiting- think "great, I'm in front...I'm the first one"; not your usual negative or blaming thoughts.

Starting with one or two thoughts that become habits, will create, that way of thinking for you, and bring both peace, and good things/circumstances to your notice.

It is actually OK for you to sort your own beliefs, values and ideals - no matter what your current associates, or your upbringing says.- you are in that situation because of you, or their support.
 Think, and plan - How do you want to live your life? What do you want for your future?

 As we pursue this goal of becoming our true selves, life only improves, as we do, the self denigration gets weaker and we become ourselves.
In some life situations we do need to take mental, or even physical time out.

Rather than alcohol,THC, or other substances - seek like minded forward/possibility thinkers -in a group, in a book, or look at the growing parts of nature.

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The following fable from AEsop- will help bring some thoughts of possibility when things are more than challenging.

The Crow and the Pitcher 

 A Crow, half-dead with thirst, came upon a Pitcher which had once been full of water; but when the Crow put its beak into the mouth of the Pitcher he found that only very little water was left in it, and that he could not reach far enough down to get at it. He tried, and he tried, but at last had to give up in despair. Then a thought came to him, and he took a pebble and dropped it into the Pitcher. Then he took another pebble and dropped it into the Pitcher. Then he took another pebble and dropped that into the Pitcher. Then he took another pebble and dropped that into the Pitcher. Then he took another pebble and dropped that into the Pitcher. Then he took another pebble and dropped that into the Pitcher. At last, at last, he saw the water mount up near him, and after casting in a few more pebbles he was able to quench his thirst and save his life. 

Little by little does the trick.





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