My Self Esteem,- Daily Habits and thought patterns of failure or success.

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Rituals or habits do define you. Many times we have seemingly woken up from a slumber, and found ourselves in a place we never thought we would be, whether it is a dead end job, bad relationship or bad place, the resulting thought is the same. How did this happen to me? Or how can I get out of this?
There must be more!    Apart from the ever increasing noise from the mass media, which encourages cognitive dissonance - a not happy with this - so buy this mentality.

The changing of our thought patterns to that of possibility thinking, is hopefully the initiative and an answer.

It is one of the answers - read below to find the rest of the habits that are guaranteed to change your life as you know it today-

• Change something and get different results. – It is better to change your reaction, or really response to events to get a different result. If you are making a cake, the end enjoyment comes from the ingredients you put in, and how you deal with them. Take one thing in your day, and come up with a different approach, and apply it for a week every day, and see what begins to happen.

• Waiting for the right time is good if you are prepared. –Don't wait to win the lottery, you might, yet you might starve in the meantime. Start learning the paths of success, and prepare yourself - someone said - for life's great adventure. Most of the time you must dare to jump when you have the opening or chance. If really feel that you want to start with some paid education - Udemy online  is a good place.

• Your planning and focus are on the way. – Planning is easy; just as you plan your clothes dressing before going out, formulate a pattern that works for you - it can just be a 60-second process.  Here is an idea:- Every night, think about three  things that you want to accomplish tomorrow, write down how long they will take, what prep will help, and write them down.  When you wake up in the morning look over the list, and then take the first step.  If you find yourself being lured to do something that’s not on that short list of three things, bring yourself back and focus. It is your list, and your life.

• Accept necessary risks. – Avoid unnecessary risks, they a huge waste of time. Yet living is about learning as you go, you can make adjustments and carry on with your life, looking back and congratulating yourself on handling that.

• The rejections of yesterday were learning experiences of the world yesterday. –Believing that you CAN is important, and this is what any domestic abuser will try to change. You learnt to walk or move, so you can learn to be in a better place for yourself. Yesterdays rejections means the other person or circumstance didn't suit us at the time.  It means we have more time to improve ourselves – to perfect our approach, and to build upon our ideas or skills.

• Take responsibility. – Not any or every event in your life is your fault, but they are all your responsibility.  Positively taking some responsibility for your situation, and mostly for your path forward can change everything.  Leave the unchangeable past/people behind you as you allow yourself to focus on the present moment.  Negatively blaming someone else, or some other past circumstance, will keep the blamer in that place. 

• Perfect is good. – Every one of us can be a perfectionist about something.  Learn to work out when your desire to make something perfect is advancing you, or preventing you from achieving what you ultimately want. It is better to say, this needs to last for 2/5/20 or 50 years, so you can move on to something else.

• Look for the truth. – Personal transformation and growth can be remarkably rewarding, but only when the process of change is based on your honesty and truth, as you see it.  When you’re not being authentic somewhere in your life or with someone in your life, it leads to anger and frustration with one party or the other.

• Be alert to new ideas and perspectives. – To make real progress you must let go of the assumption that you already have all the answers.  You can listen to others, learn from them, and successfully work with them even though you may not agree with every opinion they have.

• Avoid negative people who try to cover you with garbage. – It’s a lot easier for many to be negative than positive –and a lot easier to be critical than consider a possibility.  When you’re embarking on a new venture,your old associates may be happy enough in their pond, so instead of listening to the critics that will try to contain you, spend time talking to some of people in this world who are willing to support your efforts and acknowledge your potential, respectfully.

• Come up with a different story. – Forget what everyone else thinks of you; chances are, they aren’t thinking about you that often anyhow, if they are it will be helpful to avoid their control.  You do hopefully evaluate yourself by telling yourself a story inside of your head.  Create a positive or different narrative about your life that includes only the circumstances that matter. Look for a good mentor to copy their techniques. Jim Rohn, Les Brown, and Morgana Rae are good ones to start with. (Some links below)

• Evaluate reality –  Remind yourself that not everything is meant to be, and you can accept this. Only 1 in 300 people are worth your long term association, and the other 299 are in the world too, do not expect them to act or think like you - they wont.

• Expect things to be fun, not easy. – Easy things are good, a flow of, or pattern of results that go your way is the better aim. Many an old alcoholic woman, or grumpy old man are still waiting and expecting the easy life.

• Help others, a little too. –At some stage you may like the help they return you, it is a lot better than them not helping or cutting you down. Watch out for the 'sociopaths' or sharks and con-men and women. So give a little and get a fair exchange, or move on.

• Take small steps each day. – It is far more productive to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a giant leap only to stumble and fall and never get up again.  The path to every goal requires a number of small steps.  Figure out where you want to go, take a step, and keep on going, then keep on going again.  Reasonable honest effort and persistence with adapting approaches is the answer.

Easy Exercises to get the results.

• 1--Choose one area in your life that you want to improve, and then in private, and then put the writings only where you know: get a nice leather journal from Amazon;

• 2--Write down the specific details about your current circumstances.  (What’s bothering you?  What’s wrong?  What do you want to change? Focus on the what - not the Who.)

• 3--Write down your answer to this question: What maybe are the daily actions that have contributed to your current circumstances?  (What might you be doing that contributes to the situation you’re in?)

• 4--Write down the specific details about your ideal circumstances.  (What would make you happy?  

• 5--What does your ideal situation look like?

• 6--Write down your answer to this question:  What is the next one thing that will get you from where you are to where you want to be?  (Think about it.  What small, daily steps will help you move forward?)

• 7--Start now, it can be a phone call or two, a notebook, or one exercise.

• 8--Put the list/s away for the week, and tomorrow do the next step

• 9--Each lunchtime meditate or visualize your ideal for a few minutes, keep doing one or maybe two new things to get you closer to your goal. Keep it quiet- 'zip the lips' as a friend says.

• 10--Each and every night, think about three things that you want to accomplish tomorrow, write down how long they will take, what prep will help, and write them down.  When you wake up in the morning look over the list, and then take the first step.  If you find yourself being lured to do something that’s not on that short list of three things, bring yourself back and focus. It is your list, and your life.

• 11--Appreciate the change in you, and your life as it develops.

• 12--At the end of the 7 days, take out your list, and rewrite a new one, based on that one, get ready for a fun week next week.

• 13--Do it again this week, and so on - the results for you will be very good, very quickly - so long as you keep going with possibility thinking and adaption - guaranteed.

• 14-- Look back each 4 weeks to see where you have come, and what you can do to get closer to that pot of gold at the end of your rainbow.

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How Can I Be More Convincing and Get Anything I Want?

Thinking about getting what I want

One of the most common manipulative techniques is what psychologists call the "fear-then-relief technique."

The technique focuses on a person's emotions. Here, the manipulator causes someone a great deal of stress or anxiety and then abruptly relieves that stress.

After this sudden mood swing, the person is disarmed, and less likely to make mindful or rational decisions, and more likely to respond positively to various requests.

Some examples in popular culture are;-

• The promotion of war - look out for the enemy - they are bad (they probably are to some degree as well) - we are here to save you, come and work for us (volunteer) for a promised possible reward- which you will end up as a slave/lender yourself.

• Insurance companies sales, and advertising - give us your earned money and we'll pay out if a disaster hits you - (so long as you meet all the other 15 + conditions, you are a low risk, and we can spare the money at the time).

• Global warming - look it is 'real', all of these scientists say so, and it is on TV - all of the beautiful out of the way holiday or vacation destinations need the scientists, journalists,(and your most unfavorite politicians, and support crew), to stay there studying it - while you work in the office or factory being unable to go on vacation. All true.

• They are all out to get you - come and join us - our group will protect you - many a cult uses this while they strip you of your identity/life/money, then discard you or encourages you to convert the newcomers.

 This fear-then-relief manipulation technique is most popularly portrayed on TV, and by the lower quality cop or government employee in real life - in the classic bad cop/good cop routine: one person frightens and scares you, another saves you, and then you're more willing to hand over information, time, money.

You see this in your everyday life, too - with unskilled managers or people who suggest your job or security is on the line, backtrack, and then say we need to work overtime, as they leave for a long lunch, or maximize their time off at your expense.
Or domestic abusers, who threaten their close ones, hoping they can control their world.

  It is usually more 'effective' when there is more than one factor of threat that can effect the person, or they or their close friends have been in a similar event.

Being such a common technique, if used with a genuine promise in the here and now, or an actually helpful result to the end user - (not the manipulator) - it is accepted and successful.

The secret is that, for you to use it, giving the other party what they thought was a fair reward, being aware of it, and protecting yourself. As much as most of us wish for longer, and many esoterics try to sell us - life time in the now is valuable to you, and limited.


Making You Feel Guilty: Social Exchange 
Another common strategy used mostly by unethical marketers, government agencies, con artists, and gangsters is social exchange. Offering of a favor to happen in the future - it wont happen - or a $5- $500 gift in return for a lifetime of donations from you. The item was free to them, or they or their associates will get it back off you later.
The classic example is - take a loan - house mortgage out with us, and we'll give you cash, blankets or a big screen TV when you are approved and start paying us.
Sorry to say, this has been factored in the earnings of the lender - much like the indigenous tribes of many countries being deceived out of their lifetime use of their land with a few colored blankets, and trinkets.

An everyday example: A co-worker or 'friend' will dramatically remind you about that time they bailed you out big time in the past, then use that as leverage every time he/she needs something. Or someone who loaned you money or knows a secret of yours could continually blackmail you into doing what they want.

Short term trinkets that are fashionable are very appealing to most people, and they will quickly hand over their long term assets - be it land or time to the more aware person who has a long term plan.

Priming You With a Small Request: The Foot-in-the-Door Technique

This technique is subtle, and simple. With the foot-in-the-door method, someone asks you to do a very small and easy request, like a survey, or some small actions for a few dollars, and then follows up with the real request.

Everyday example: A panhandler or street person who asks you for the time, then asks you to spare some change. They will then hold out their hand for a moment longer as if to say is that all? More please, I need to buy ???
Or rewarding a dog with a small treat, so it will always bring in the newspaper for example - treats or no more treats - just a thankyou pat.

By getting you to say yes to one request, you're more likely to say yes to a second one, much like the pet dog.

Reciprocation, is how humanity functions as a whole - which is partly why stealing/fraud is punished for most of us. 

If both parties are getting what they consider is 'fair', it works wonderfully - most genuinely successful people make a 'sandwich' out of it; a small offering once, twice, three times - then the larger request being fulfilled - followed by some small things unexpected once, twice, three times.

Avoiding These Manipulations

• In all walks of life, there are overly self-focused people - it is not so much not falling victim to them. Yet more, keeping them out of your life, and valuing your life, sharing what you want to share with them only.

• Nearly every manipulator uses emotions and emotional transference, so whenever you feel a surge in  emotions. You're more vulnerable at that time to do things unconsciously and at the suggestion of others.  The cheapest for the advertiser/manipulator is this general formula: [Something terrible] could have happened to you, but it [didn't/won't]. [Now do this]. It only costs you -$x down.

• Life is full of it when you look, and some very pseudo-wealthy people seem greatly skilled at it.

The idea for you is to be aware of the long term for you, and avoid giving away the short term, for the future. The sandwich idea above will bring you the greatest rewards - more so than most.

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The Seriously Wealthy - How come they have got more than me? Is it the way they choose?

Choosing your self belief or image of yourself

What is the difference between success and failure? - Especially when you see so many seemingly horrible or selfish people with wealth.

Mostly, it is a focus on the importance of that idea,or desire, and an unconscious self belief that they are 'entitled' to have.

Now this is a good attribute you must have,- one would draw the line at the 'narcissists' of the world, and of course those that damage others to get results for their ego.

To find a level of contentment or appreciation in things as they are in the moment, is indeed the true mark of success.

Now generally any approach or response will bring you results.  Something like 'The Law of Attraction' in the real world, with real people.

The important thing to consider is noticing the activity (or inactivity), and the result or results this does bring us.

A list follows of some of the actions - habits, and one offs, that are choices of the let's call them the 'winners' in the game of reality.


Read through them, noticing the ones you are going to work on in your life to markedly improve it.

• To eventually succeed, a continually adaptable plan is acted on.

• Look for success along the way. Increments are as important as at the finish line.

• To make a difference somehow in some form attracts more benefits to you and everyone else. 

• Winners create belief systems that others follow, rather than being subservient to another's plan for their life.

• Winners earn respect, which is a value orientated determination, from themselves and secondly others.

• Instead of seeing all the puddles in the way, and then falling into one. Winners look around for the solution, that gives value to others as well.

•  To review options, is good, yet action is rewarded. Winners act on decisions.

•  Winners add up all their small victories, to a continuum of a total picture.

•  To expect certain outcomes, and be prepared to deal with the unexpected.

•  Winners are paid for their results, as well as being paid for their time.

• Winners build things. Losers buy fashionable items. (The popular Robert Kiyosaki books are a good help here).

•  Winners see things they don’t understand and get curious.

•  Winners communicate, and share what is important.

• Winners make things happen, they actually make some moves to the goal posts.

• Winners help others get ahead too. Losers want to get ahead of others, being insecure or weak within.

• Winners limit their time with the worst of the losers, knowing they would prefer not to catch their flu.

• Losers label themselves as experts. Be careful of the noise, sometimes the loudest most flashy car for example, does not win the race. Winners know there is still much to learn in the real world.

• Winners over-deliver and negotiate agreeably. Losers over-sell not by enthusiasm, but by deceptive intent, they do manipulate.

• Winners smile from within. Losers frown, roll their eyes, smirk and other controlling facial tics.

• Winners realize the way they work brings opportunity to them. The way of the Wyrd. Losers think winners are lotto lucky.

•  Winners define their own success, creating fashions and others definitions of success.

• Winners face fears in realistic ways. Losers escape fears in the range of chemicals on offer.

• Winners use their free time (learning or experiencing something new). Losers waste their free time (watching TV). You can learn from TV, do be definite about what you want to learn, then if is safe go and try it out in the real world.

• Winners see constant familiarity as a risk. Think a pleasant bubbling stream or brook has better fish, water, and plants in it - than a many year stagnant pond Losers see the unknown as a risk. .

• Winners live life now based on lessons learned in the past, selling to the aforementioned losers.

Your mission is to go back and be aware of these points, being careful of the parasites and sharks;- and one by one, a week at a time change them to be the positive assets that will bring you long term success.






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Napoleon Hill's books - the bibles of success.


  
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The habits of Being poor - definitions of failure prone people - My poverty or wealth?

The train of life

We all ask it at different times What is the difference between failing and success - be it wealth, relationships, or even health?

 Any approach or response will bring you results. The important thing to consider is noticing the activity (or inactivity), and the result or results this does bring us.

Something like 'The Law of Attraction' in the real world, with real people.

Many people find comfort in their place in life in no matter how damaging it is, and just to be clear, to find a level of contentment or appreciation in things as they are in the moment, is the true mark of success.

The dividing lines are where damage is pending, or happening in real terms. Something like sitting on the railroad tracks having a picnic - will a train come or not?
Do not do this - it is a metaphor or mind picture story to help you recognize that actions/in-actions may not have the ideal effect or result you wanted in your life.

A list follows of some of the actions - repeating, and one offs, that are choices of the let's call them 'failures' of the world, or losers in the game of reality.


Read through them, noticing the ones you are going to work on in your life to markedly improve it.

• Losers fail once and quit, use it as a war story and remain stuck, unable to eventually succeed.

• Losers look for success at the finish line, rather than along the way.

• Losers work to make money, which is good - yet to make a difference somehow as well is the ideal.

• Losers seek, and demand respect. Think of the errant judge, or the loudmouth you know.
• Winners earn respect, which is a value orientated determination.

•  Losers stare at the problem, like seeing all the puddles in the way, and then falling in one. Winners look around for the solution, that gives value to others as well.

•  Losers review options, sometimes for years. Winners act on decisions.

•  Losers attempt to conquer the world in one shot. Winners add up all their small victories.

•  Losers expect certain outcomes. Winners prepare themselves as well for the unexpected.

•  Losers are paid for their time, which is good, yet Winners are paid for their results.

•  Losers buy things. (The popular Robert Kiyosaki books are a good help here). Winners build things.

•  Losers see things they don’t understand and rubbish them. Winners see things they don’t understand and get curious.

•  Losers talk, gossip, abuse, and question to reduce another's value. Winners communicate, and share what is important.

•  Losers let things happen. Winners make things happen, they actually make some moves to the goal posts.

• Losers want to get ahead of others, being insecure or weak within. Winners help others get ahead too.

• Losers hangout with losers. Winners limit their time with the worst of the losers, knowing they would prefer not to catch their flu.

• Losers label themselves as experts. Be careful of the noise, sometimes the loudest most flashy car for example, does not win the race. Winners know there is still much to learn.

• Losers over-sell not by enthusiasm, but by deceptive intent, they do manipulate. Winners over-deliver and negotiate agreeably.

• Losers frown, roll their eyes, smirk and other controlling facial tics. Winners smile from within.

• Losers think winners are lotto lucky. Winners realize the way they work brings opportunity to them.

• Losers follow other people’s fashions and definitions of success. Winners define their own success.

• Losers escape fears in the range of chemicals on offer. Winners face fears in realistic ways.

• Losers waste their free time (watching TV). Winners use their free time (learning or experiencing something new). You can learn from TV, do be definite about what you want to learn, then if is safe go and try it out in the real world.

• Losers see the unknown as a risk. Winners see constant familiarity as a risk. Think a pleasant bubbling stream or brook has better fish, water, and plants in it - than a many year stagnant pond.

• Losers live in the past.

• Winners live life now based on lessons learned in the past, selling to the aforementioned losers.

Don't get too despondent - Some of the losers of the world have ingratiated themselves to seem successful.
No one really teaches these ideas to their children, and most administration or government employees or agents are in fact failure orientated.

Your mission is to go back and be aware of these points, being careful of the parasites and sharks;- and one by one, a week at a time change them to be the positive assets that will bring you long term success.


 Recommended Links to help you...Choose a couple... 

Napoleon Hill's books - the bibles of success.


  
Discover the ideas to achieve the life of your dreams, with help from the master of success.








Make money by putting LOVE first and do Unlock the flow of wealth into your life...

Morgana Rae & Charmed Life Coaching, Inc.

Develop a millionaire mindset easily and quickly with -








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How Women can Enhance their Credibility as Leaders. 23 Tips and resources.

To be valued and successful

Whether at work, church, home or out socially.

To be respected, listened to, and being able to lead the situation in a successful direction, brings superb rewards.

23 Tips and links for Women to Enhance their Credibility as Leaders. 

 

1-Think like a coach, not a controller; - buy, study and read- all the books by John Wooden

2-Give realistic positive, feedback. Aim for the possibility thinking style, and leave the red pen alone. Many a dictator has used the negative - and they have all been replaced, violently in most cases.

3-When coaching women, give the critical feedback first, followed by a positive directive statement.

4-Communicate ideas in a concise, focused manner. Considering each parties benefits, and beliefs.

5-Dress to suit the situation only - you have more value to offer than your body. In fact if this is what you display or flaunt, it indicates your lack of self value, and maybe your value to the world.

6-Do reduce visual distraction and err on the side of conservative, - rethink the bling.

7-Choose your makeup and fragrances very carefully, and be clean in hygiene and dress.

8-Use and choose effective and supportive footwear, your feet do dictate your body energy.

9-Make authentic non seductive eye contact. Focus on the people at hand.

10-Ensure your body language is self assured, not sexy, nor of subservience, acquiescence, or even overt superiority.

11-Watch the tone of voice, the barbie, or baby doll will bring you NO long term favours.

12-Think and talk about the future, as it applies to the situation, and stick to the issues at hand.

13-Leave the curses, and dramatic statements in the gutter, so you manage to stay out of it.

14-Associate mostly with other women, who are either on the same level or better. Your 'friends' will either follow, or you will make more supportive ones.

15-Clean your surroundings, your room, car, house or desk. No need to be over the top, just be noticeably tidy and clean. This habit gets assessed often.

16-Stay open to learning - even the whale will learn from its trusted peers and environment.

17-Take a course say - Udemy online, or Online Courses AU.- cheaper than a university, and you can do it in your own home. Pick one you really would like, pay for it and start.
Make it known - tactfully, that you are doing the course, and finish it.

18-Treat your mind as a royal garden, restrict the bad stuff (sadly most of hollywood and the mass media)
Use them for your benefit, not you be subject to theirs.

19-Study nutrition;- white rice, chocolate, biscuits, or McDonalds, are not the best choices for long term success or performance, as many a pancreatic cancer victim will attest.

20-The old studies of Weston Price, Jack Bragg, and the WW1, and WW2 dietary manuals are a good start. Buy the books, and take up, and stay with the practices.

21-Buy a juicer, some clean foods to go in it, and use it each day.

22-Buy a water filter and use it, chlorine, fluoride and the other water treatments are used to kill living organisms in your water. Long term on you - they cause cellular adaption = cancer, and nutritive diseases. The best; - a Water for Life USA water Ionizer - it works like your smart-phone.

23-Exercise a little each day, it is cheaper than anti-anxiety drugs, improves your sex life, makes you more attractive, and brings you a feeling of control over your life.

The aim for you is to live a long healthy, happy life. 

 

 

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Napoleon Hill's books - the bibles of success.


  
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Make money by putting LOVE first and do Unlock the flow of wealth into your life...

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Rules of the game that make us, - our Success, our Luck, and my and your lives.

Playing - will I win?

You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else. Albert Einstein  

The Rules that Govern Our Lives 

 

We learn, or try to learn, to live in a world that others have created over the course of known history. We are schooled either formally in an institution, or by our observations to the created world around us.
As children often reply, when asked why do they go to school by their parents - "because you, and the government make me go"

People do live life partly on their terms, - some more than others, - and partly following the plans set by other people and society.


Laws, plans, and rules are created by  -


1; - governments and institutions, and
2; - a set of rules we think we have made for ourselves; that are reflected in our values, beliefs, and in our personal standards.

Some good and helpful, some not so much.


These rules have been conditioned into our mind over the course of a lifetime by others, and by society in general.

However, we have also played our part in this conditioning process. We have been willing, or unwilling actors - and have accepted things to be that particular way.

Most of us have good intentions and honorable hopes, with dreams and goals for the future,  -  however the 'rules' which we live our lives unfortunately don’t allow us to realize our desired destination.

It is now time for a change.


Your Childhood Innocence

Think back for a moment to your childhood, with the youthful innocence and enthusiasm that you brought into every activity.
Back then you treated everything as a game. Everything you did was fun and exciting - until someone told you to "grow up".

You were told that life isn’t a game and that you need to take things more seriously. You get told that your actions could have negative consequences; that you need to protect yourself from pain; that you must hold on tight to the things you have, and that you must follow the universally accepted rules that everybody else has grown up with.


The Unfair parts of Life.

•      Life is not always filled with perfection.
•     There are people you must, and you should have avoided.
•     There are organizations you should not trust, or have trusted.
•     You will experience different setbacks and problems.
•     You may experience a mistake or two.
•     You will go through different emotions.
•     You will sometimes fail at your choices.
•     You will experience criticism and rejection.
•     You might occasionally embarrass yourself.
•     You will win, but you will find more ways of learning how to win.

Just assume that things could go wrong, and have a plan or two in place to deal with that. And of course continue on with the adaptable plans for your desired future.




One method that leads to acceptance of the 'unfair,' is the act of disassociating yourself emotionally from the experiences.
In fact the standard prose of a manipulative person, is to question if you felt a certain way. Therefore to improve your success you must be aware of this.

In reality there are no absolutely good or bad situations, - it only feels like that at the time - there are interpretations that we as people make.
What one person might interpret as an unfortunate event, another person will interpret that exact same event in a more favorable way.
And because they see it in a favorable way, they can now make more of the situation, instead of playing the victim card. Leave that victim card for others, it is a manipulation technique, that will not help you long term.

Taking the possibility approach will do wonders for your self-confidence. 

You take charge of you and now are on the way to living life at a higher level.

 

10 Good Rules for Playing the Game of Life

Rule 1: Clear Goals

Setting clear goals gives you a definite direction in life and helps you live with a sense of purpose. It redirects all your efforts towards clear aims.Something like the idea, that while you are on the sports field or the court is to get the ball where you want it to go.



Rule 2: Sense of Humor

Humor is a great tool against the adversity that life may drop in front of you. Humor will allow you to move through or around these difficulties without falling into the "victim mentality" trap. Again playing the victim card will not help you win at the game of life - it is in fact a way for you to controlled - be it by an abuser or a 'helping' organization. You must instead use some humor to keep your spirits high while you move forward.


Rule 3: New Skills

Start today, and keep at going daily, weekly, monthly, yearly.  It can be either tangible, or hands on skills, or equally as important - thinking and people skills. You can learn from both good and bad, even how not to do it - will save you some time and make it easier for you.
The perpetual life student attitude and practice will bring you fast results.


Rule 4: Calculated Risks

To venture outside your comfort zone. even a little for a start, will change your chances of winning in the game of life. Taking calculated risks and stepping beyond the confines of your normality helps expand opportunities, (luck)- provides a super platform for growth and new insights, helps you solve problems, and also goes a long way towards helping you make better decisions as you make progress through this game of life.

All your problems are solvable, however you will rarely solve them while within the confines of your normal or previous comfort zone. You must stretch beyond that, as this is where opportunity lies for new understandings and perceptions to help you find solutions.


Rule 5: Cherish Friendships

It is better to have a network of people behind you, rather than fighting or hindering you. Sooner or later you will need the support of others to help you win this game. Therefore start by cultivating your friendships today, and care for the good ones as if you wish them to last forever.


Rule 6: Accept the odd Mistake

Life involves the process of learning and growth.You might make the occasional mistake or two. Learn from your mistakes - once or twice is enough - if you are repeating the same mistakes time and again, change something - now!

Learning from a small mistake made today will indeed save you from making a bigger mistake tomorrow.
Or, perchance, learning from a big mistake today does help you gain the clarity you need to move forward in a better way.


Rule 7: Generate Plenty of Ideas and New Experiences

In order to succeed in the game of life you need to be constantly opening yourself up to a world of new experiences. They can come in the form of ideas, people, places and knowledge.

And as you begin to think differently about your life and circumstances you gather unique ideas that you can use to help move your life forward in a better way. New experiences also bring with them new opportunities to help you win in the game of life. That word luck again.

To focus on one overall idea is good, yet to get ahead, different approaches to that idea, or different ideas do open up new and maybe better paths.


Sometime ideas don't turn out 100% as expected. Great, now you can adapt. Experience and responses of others and yourself to these helps you define your direction.


Rule 8: Be a little Kind to Others

It’s said that "those who show kindness will eventually be taken advantage of." And you would be right. There will be people who will certainly take advantage of your kindness, however that’s part of the game of life. Ensure they pay you well in compensation, for that.

Kindness is not letting them take any advantage of you, or you having lesser standards for yourself; it is accepting people where they are at now.

When you are kind to others it often activates the power of reciprocity, and so it should.
Mostly you feel more confident, in control, and fulfilled that you have made a positive difference in someone else’s life.
This confidence empowers your daily decisions and actions to help move your life forward in a better way.


Rule 9: Aim for some Balance

An ideal successful life is a balanced life. A life that promotes good health and provides long-term  stability. And the way to achieve it all, is to strive for a balance.


Rule 10: Work Smarter AND Harder

The final rule for winning in the game of life is to work both smarter AND harder. This naturally improves your luck and allows you opportunities that you otherwise would not have had.

Either one on their own, will give rewards, yet to get stable long-term success, both are needed.

 

One good life philosophy to have is this - from -Will Smith the famous actor, has said-

    "The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things — you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things: You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple, right? You’re not going to out-work me. It’s such a simple, basic concept. The guy who is willing to hustle the most is going to be the guy that just gets that loose ball."

Changing your Luck and Succeeding in the Game of Life

Do acknowledge that the results you get from life are a direct reflection of your habitual thoughts, words and actions.

• Choose your own path and not the path laid out for you by others.
• Dedicate yourself to something worthwhile.
• Aim for daily growth and learn from experiences, from other people, and from mistakes.
• Taking advantage of opportunities to move your life forward in a better way.
• Take responsibility for your life, choices, decisions and actions without complaining, blaming or making excuses. (This empowers others- not you).
• Cultivate curiosity each and everyday.
• Ask yourself solution orientated questions about your life, problems and circumstances.
• Stay flexible in thought and open minded to other perspectives, ideas and opinions.
• Define your true core values, and boundaries.
• Keep true to your highest core values.
• Consider necessary short-term changes for long-term gains.
• Decisions, and responsibility is OK.
• Consistently raise your personal standards. 
• Evaluate and change unhelpful thoughts, beliefs, habits and fears that are holding you back.
• Leave procrastination and instant gratification for others.

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Poverty is not the answer - it is the devils trap, and as such I often go a long period of time without.

Riding the power of external forces, and going somewhere.

Poverty says, "I shouldn’t have it"....or... "I'm not allowed to have it." The spirit of poverty will tell you should be ashamed of what you have.

The spirit of success says that you are allowed to have, and can be proud of what you do have, with a measure of humility and gratitude.

Thinking in Christian terms, it is much like this:- 
(If you are not a Christian, suspend your prejudices for the moment, and follow the method, and see how it actually works)

The devil  doesn’t want you to be free financially… he doesn’t want you to tithe and give offerings. He (or she) doesn’t want you to live the blessed life, and use your resources to advance the kingdom of God, or good.


With the beliefs of acceptance and value, you in most religious terms - are Blessed. Which means having a seemingly supernatural power assist you.


When we use money for righteous purposes, we are laying up a treasure in heaven. That’s why we need to be good stewards of our money…

In Luke 16:10 Jesus, says…

"He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much; and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much."...........if you will be faithful with little, God will bless you with abundance.

If you have been trustworthy with someone else’s property, you will be trusted with property of your own.


 Deuteronomy 8:18

18; Remember the lord your God. He is the one who gives you power to be successful, in order to fulfill the covenant he confirmed to your ancestors with an oath.


Tim. 6:10
"…the LOVE of money (or worship thereof) is a root of all kinds of evil."

Money in itself is not inherently evil, what this means is that greed, covetousness, and selfishness, are all manifestations of the poisoned spirit.

How to avoid poverty?

• Does God want us to be poor or rich? Although God may give us poverty to test us and make us strong and humble, 
• He wants us to have wisdom, insight and understanding. These virtues bring wealth and riches.
• Hence, God don’t want us to eventually become poor. 

• He wants us to become a tree that bears good fruits – a truly wealthy person that shares blessings to the poor. 

• Now, if you are experiencing poverty, the following are the teachings of the Lord that can get you out of poverty and starvation.

We must humble ourselves to the Lord and praise Him – because He is the one who take us out from poverty and gives as wealth and riches.

     Samuel 2:7-8
    The LORD sends poverty and wealth; he humbles and he exalts. He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap; he seats them with princes and has them inherit a throne of honor.

    Deuteronomy 8:18
    “Thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he swear unto thy fathers, as it is this day.”

We must not over-indulge ourselves in pleasures. We should avoid drunkenness and gluttony. Pleasures, drunkenness and gluttony really drain our money, weaken our body, and cause diseases – another huge expense in the form of hospital bills- now or later.

    Proverbs 21:17
    He who loves pleasure will become poor; whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich.

    Proverbs 23:21
    for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags.

    Proverbs 10:3
    The LORD does not let the righteous go hungry but he thwarts the craving of the wicked.


    Proverbs 22:16
    He who oppresses the poor to increase his wealth and he who gives gifts to the rich — both come to poverty.

    Proverbs 11:24-25
    One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

    Proverbs 28:27
    He who gives to the poor will lack nothing, but he who closes his eyes to them receives many  curses.

    Proverbs 13:7
    One man pretends to be rich, yet has nothing; another pretends to be poor, yet has great wealth.

Finally, we must not just use our mouth,- but we must use our hands to execute and do our works. 
People do succeed in throwing poverty away because mostly they use actions, and they have good plans – or develop them, as they go along.

    Proverbs 14:23-24
    All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields folly.

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Poverty self-generates a psychology of its own, which leads to different decisions (or not).

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