Having the home team advantage and using it for your benefit

Creating your own advantage

How is it that you hear about people that make a complete reversal in their lives, and overnight become very successful, happy, and fulfilled beings.

Perhaps the reason this is so fascinating is that it happens so rarely.When it does happen, on the outside, the major life change is related to a career, location, mate, or some other important aspect of the person’s life. Inside them the progress has been going on unseen.

Making good decisions regarding these different areas of your life is an important factor in your success. In most sports, there is something called the home team advantage, which means that when a team is playing at home, it tends to perform much better than when they play away. 

When a team is at home, it is where it practiced, and is encouraged. cheered. and is supported by the spectators, whereas visiting teams are often booed. 

Consider this explanation from Wikipedia:

'In most team sports where the concept of home and away stadiums is found, the home team is considered to have a significant advantage over the visitors. Due to this, many important games (such as playoff or elimination matches) in many sports have special rules for determining what match is played where.......'

The home team advantage is an important concept in sport, and it is a proven factor in how well teams do. If this concept applies to teams, how do you think you can apply it to everyday life?


 When a team away from home scores a goal, people boo or do not make the team feel validated for its efforts. When the team away from home does something wrong, people may cheer.

 The psychological message transmitted is that people only approve of the team away from home when they are doing poorly.

Your success in your career and in your life can be affected by whether you are living, working, and associating with which crowd.

What generally separates people who do not have all the gifted attributes of success is the sheer determination and self-belief inside of them. 
Having heart and drive can make all the difference. If you are going to reach your full potential, you must possess heart and drive. This is something that wins, despite any uncontrollable obstacles that may arise.

Heart and drive can be killed, though, if they are not supported. The best thing you can do for yourself is to put yourself in a position where you are supported, where you have the home team advantage.


When you trace the cause of someone with a lot of potential falling behind in life, when you see sickness and ill health, when you find people not trying hard enough, when you see failure and despair, generally somewhere along the line you will find someone who has been negatively affected and otherwise discouraged by people somewhere along the way. 

I am sure there are some people you know who seem to have problems all of the time: Things go wrong for the person wherever they go. They get in auto accidents; they accidentally break things; they have all sorts of health problems; they make stupid mistakes and get fired from jobs; people around them have all sorts of issues as well. I have known many people like this.

• Have you ever known someone whose friends and associates are always getting sick? and/or
• always having accidents?
• getting into trouble?
• in crisis?
• having financial problems?
• always losing their jobs?
• always unhappy?

I have, and I urge you strongly to move away, from these people - you can support them - but at a physical or emotional distance. 

The continuous stream of negative results and their reactions to it have become their identity.

You have the ability to set the stage, and determine the supporting cast in your own life.

If you are spending time with a person who is invalidating your efforts and your life, the odds are you will be negatively affected. Similarly, if you are around someone who is constantly validating you and giving you approval, you may benefit tremendously through your association with this person.

I have known of many people throughout the years who were closely connected with someone, whether it be a parent, friend, partner, or someone else. 
The person they were connected with had a huge fear of the person leaving them, and therefore their personal interest was in keeping the person down, making sure that the person did not improve, or change, to such an extent that they could ever leave them. 

A parent who does not want his or her child to go away from home show all sorts of illnesses to keep the child around and may also discourage any of their efforts at self-improvement. A parent who has the need to feel superior to his or her child may also keep the child down in subtle ways.

In personal relationships, a man or woman may discourage a mate from trying to get a better job, looking better, and so forth, for fear that this might lead to separation and abandonment. 

This person might relay negative feedback about his or her partner’s accomplishments but hold back positive feedback or information that is likely to be helpful.

The objective of such people is to keep other people down. People can hold you back by direct means, and they can also do so through indirect means. For example, a friend or significant other who does not compliment or notice the positive things that you do, or who always finds fault in the positive things that you do, can have a very traumatic effect on you in the long run. 

Making you self-conscious of your faults and always pointing these out can also be a seriously negative influence. Relating about nothing other than negativity, impossibility, and so forth can also have a very negative effect on you. If any of this sounds familiar to you, it is probably time to evaluate your relationships.

Remember of the home team advantage - you have the right and power to choose supporting players, an even playing field, and a space that is bright - that allows you to be in your best light. 




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Dare to plant yourself in the good soil

Planting yourself in the best soil possible.

When you have a really good product, you only surround it with other really good products.

The Ferrari or Jaguar dealership does not sell its cars in the same dealership next to cheapest of budget cars – instead, it may only sell them next to Maserati’s or other expensive cars.

The best stores are only located in the best neighborhoods – and close to the other best stores. You are sadly judged by the company you keep.

This is how it is with good product placement –  to surround the better products only with other good products.

You need to be very careful with whom you associate and spend your time with. No matter what you try to do- if you are constantly influenced by a person- some facets will rub off on you and change you.


A true story.

She called me on Saturday afternoon, and said one of her friends told her I was a good worker, and she had some little jobs to do, could I look at them sometime?
 I said  "I would love to- do you think I could come around now? .....Where-abouts are you?"
 She was in the next part of town a few miles away.
"OK I can be there in about 15 minutes, is that OK?" I asked.
With some surprise she said .."yes, come now if it suits."

I arrived at the house - a large 2 story home with huge park-like grounds, tennis court, pool and pool house- the works- well compared to the tract home I was living in then.

She showed me around- and we came to the point were I was to return a few days later for half a day.
I came on the appointed day, a little early as usual, in clean clothes- ready to work.
When I had finished the mornings work- she gave me lunch, and paid me then and there.
"Can you come back next Thursday?"
"Of course", I replied.

So began 15 years of almost weekly work, and  for unbeknown to me, one of the wealthiest families in the city. Being given lunches every day, paid daily, and being invited to parties, and sent to their friends places for more work.

Did I change? Of course I did. I became well spoken, I learnt better manners and consideration. I learned to take more care of my health and appearance. I learnt to keep confidences. I learned to value my money.
I always was prompt, industrious, and polite.


Why- to be acceptable - perhaps those traits were already there for me, as they are for you: - as are the nutrients locked up in different soils.

If you are around the best and most successful people, they will help you rise. (That does not mean the pseudo rich-it means genuinely successful people in their field)

Accepted behavior and therefore thought, is verbally and non verbally reinforced, You will in time change how you look, speak, what you talk about, and what you begin to think about to 'fit in.' 

If you are around people who are unsuccessful and do not have big plans for themselves, they will influence you in a similar way, think of loose thinking gamblers as an example- of what you don't want to be.

If you desire success, you will surround yourself with the best people. You must always try and surround yourself with the best people. If you cannot- read books of the people who are inspirational, join a club that suits- for fun, watch only films and TV of productive and inspiring people. Go walking in a park where successful people walk- you will begin to dress like them to be accepted. Volunteer one day or night a week somewhere that you choose, for 3 months.Then another place for another 3 months. Make it enjoyable for yourself.

 It need not cost much- thrift stores where people donate their semi-used goods to charity for their profit are a good start, The dollar stores will often have good products, albeit with a limited life-good enough to start with.
If you have a car, wash it every week, keep it clean and tidy no matter how old it is- genuine people respect the effort you take, as much as some would the label. Little things, like clean footwear- most people look down- will make a difference in how you feel about your progress and how others see you.


In gardening or farming, if you are stuck in a place where the soil is not the best = stiff clay, or shifting sands, you amend the soil - or add things to make it better. You have an investment here - look after it- it will pay you back many times. With care, you see the growth you desire.



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