Why wont you Accept Me? Don't be so hard on Yourself.......

In my bubble or theirs? To be accepted or not in the world,why?

Accepted in the world?

Many have asked that question in usually difficult times. Do not allow another to attempt control of you like this.

Most likely we are challenging the rules the other person or group, has in their own mind for their world.

As an emerging adult, we easily see through the unreality of the world, yet no one seems to appreciate our views on it all.

To conform, without disrupting the status quo - (does leave some people at the top, doesn't it?) - seems be that which is forced upon us.
It does make your life easier to seem as if you are a patterned being - not so far as a clone though.

Even more important than presenting yourself in a manner others find attractive, is to accept yourself. From this almost invincible foundation, you can conquer the world.

If you find yourself adopting a non-accepting attitude towards things you do or don't do, or thinking self-critical thoughts;

1- write down privately exactly what that or those thoughts are
2- then re-write them as - I remember that 'X' said I was - note that this is probably the reality.
3- now go through the easy exercises below,
and create and write down a balancing thought to change the world as you see it.

Accept yourself:

Don't be too hard on yourself. What would you say to yourself if you were being a little more forgiving towards yourself? Write this down as your balancing thought and say it to yourself.

Counsel yourself as if you were a good friend:

What would you say to a friend in your situation or what would a good friend say to you? And about you. Write this down as your balancing thought.

Constructive approach:

If you were asked to say what positives might come out of the situation or what you can learn from it, what would you say? We can even learn from undesired situations - as we must really do so to make things better for us. Write these comments down as your balancing thought.

Explore alternatives:

What alternative ways are there, of looking at the things that are leading you to jump to negative conclusions about yourself? Your negative judgement about yourself could be more balanced or moderate. Write this down as your balancing thought.

Prepare for the worst:

Imagine that the worst were to happen - it won't - Though to be ready with a couple of plans to deal with those contingencies is the mark of success.Write down your asssessment of seriousness and of how you could react or deal with that eventuality as your balancing thought.

Try to focus on something else:

Is it really worth expending all your emotional and mental energy over this issue? Now you have plans in place, you are relieved from the circular or unproductive thoughts that may be affecting your self-belief and feelings of self-worth.And you can focus on creating a better world for yourself.

Recommended links to help you now......

Les brown - the master of motivation - helping you. and-