To be Self reliant, Self determined, Self motivated and a little Selfish

Choosing a successful life

A successful life does mean that you are and can be self reliant, self determined, self disciplined, and in charge of your own destiny.

Your fate is in the hands of you, and no-one else. You do get to to plan your life, and it's path.

Lonely- not really, you don't have the same amount, or thankfully the same type of friends as a less successful person.

You get to be selective, because you know the rules of -

1- contagion of failure, and negativity.
2- to others you appear as you seem to be, so you do avoid the lower echelons.
3- you know the value of time and life, and........
4- better thinking people do offer better opportunities to each other.

Consequently, there being more authentic people in this group, you have less, and more reliable friends, than perhaps the person happy with their regular employment.

Being a 'lone wolf,' as it has been called, and doing things your own way can give you more flexibility to be with the ones you care about.

Being a 9-5er, or in fact whatever set hours you work - takes time away from you in a structured way, that could have been spent with your family and friends.

Being successful, allows you to incorporate different events into your schedule, small but valuable pockets of time.

To be alone at times, gives you essential time to reflect (meditate), and revise, and plan - without the influential chatter of society - which is not your most helpful guide.

It is not so much to be alone. You meet people, you are around people. Now you actually get the choose to have people in your association or not.

A secret- your friends encourage your success or not by emotional reinforcement. It could be time to be a reliable friend to some additional people, who allow you to be successful. The choice is yours.

If the right people don’t want to be around you then that is a problem you can start to correct.

Instead of alcohol, or some other diversion, that costs you, invest a little energy for self-improvement, and then a little action day by day.

Human beings are trained to be social creatures and most end up needing the company of humans.
In prison, and school, solitary confinement or an exclusion is used as a punishment. Yet that doesn't mean you need them all in your life. Choose those who are best for you.

It is better to not require constant attention, approval or validation from family, friends, peers and colleagues. They won't give it to you all, because of their fears, envy and personal insecurities.

It is better for you, to be driven from within. Their approval and validation may come with time and success but it won’t come from playing by their rules.

If you are worried about being alone, don’t let your loneliness become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Work out what you want, and what type of people you would like in your life -
Even the puppy fat blonde seeking a wealthy husband to support her lifestyle thinks, plans ahead, and acts to get her reward. (Mostly she fails to maintain the effort to keep it going- but you can change this for you.)
Copy her programme, not her grasping philosophy, and you will succeed.

Be the person you wish to be and one that other people you value might feel OK about being with. It really is all up to you, and it is more rewarding for you that way.

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