It used to be the magazines at the newsagents, or a display behind the book exchange counter.
Then the cinema, and video/DVD hire stores. Or a liberal society's television channel.
Usually France or Holland for me.
Now it is easily accessible with and without payment in a privacy (or not), on our computers and phones over the distribution tool of the internet.
Apart from the generally accepted harmful or unacceptable - most anything is viewable for your pleasure.
So instead of a hidden magazine of specific fotishes, (new word-copyrighted here). at the click of buttons and key tabs we can with a little skill locate whatever we think of as exciting or enjoyable for that moment.
The reactions are.......
- This is easy- I can get here by just this?
- Ask the question in different ways, and languages.
- OMG
- how do they do that?
- how can I do what to get that?
- where do I get that?
- they get paid for this?
- how can I create a life so I can?
- how could anyone like/want/need to do that?
- I never thought that was attractive - now it might be to me?
- My other lovers were actually OK
- I am pretty good
- I can be even better
- You know everyone in their own way has an attractiveness.
- This is not actually helping me
So is there value in depravity? A strong word, meaning immoral or evil act. There may be. Read on...
I'm sure my elders may have been titillated by their own form of pornography, yet would not accept the common accessibility of it all in today's world. Of course, any authority- religion or legal will denounce it, notably because it changes one focus to harmful? activities.
Notice how the mind changes what is normal to what is not, or what is?
The exposure (pun intended) with a curiosity of not before seen activities, increases the interest and repeat visit factors.
Notice the positive thoughts of; - a change in definitions of beauty or physical value; now beginning to look past that- plus the acknowledgement that I am seeking pleasure- be that through sensory (physical usually), or being accepted for who I am.
The questions of:-
- how can I?
- what can I do?
- what do I have change in myself to get this in my life?
- you can get paid for having fun if you are good in what you do?
- if you give enough other people what they want - it will all add up
- maybe I could accept others for what/who or how they are? would save some time and effort-- I don't have to live with them 24/7,
- is this action right now helping me get where I want?
- What really do I want?
Can all be answered without viewing porn - awareness of yourself is really the key. Admittedly an ongoing challenge at times.
Ask the question in a different way than what you are used to, gets you a changed result.
Note the patterning of your mind by creating a neural path, either selected by you, or the creators of the stimulus.
photo coutesy of wikipedia commons-Screenshot from The Cell by Alexander Kargaltsev
